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Why It’s Important to Read With Your Children

Well written books reinforce the values and morals you want to impart to your children.
By Barbara Rainey


“Now I will go and find my mother!” he said. “Are you my mother?” he said to the kitten. “Are you my mother?” he said to the hen.

Remember the stories your parents read to you at bedtime?

One of my favorites was, Are You My Mother?, by P.D. Eastman, a classic children’s book. Just seeing the cover sends memories flooding back. Now I get the privilege of reading it—and other favorites like Goodnight Moon or Blueberries for Sal—to my grandchildren.

Reading a good book with a child nuzzled underneath your neck is magical. The child hangs on every new word found on the pages, while the adult absorbs every moment of cuddling such innocence. It creates a bond that is enjoyed as tattered pages are turned and the wonder of imagination and discovery is sparked by words, hand-drawn illustrations, and creative story lines.

As Gladys Hunt puts it in one of my favorite books about reading to children, Honey for a Child’s Heart, “Children don’t stumble onto good books by themselves; they must be introduced to the wonder of words put together in such a way that they spin out pure joy and magic.”  

The importance of a good book

Being intentional is a parent’s job. We intentionally plan healthy meals, choose the best school, church, and play activities for our children’s growth. Selecting and reading the best books is equally important.

To introduce our children to the pleasure of words goes beyond the pure enjoyment of reading. Good books spark imagination and creativity. They teach, guide, and model excellence in wise living.

Even Proverbs speaks of this truth, “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.” What a delightful, happy parenting task this is.

One of my favorite parenting memories is the year we read all eight of the Little House on the Prairie books by Laura Ingalls Wilder. Most afternoons I put my two littlest ones down for naps and the four big kids and I piled on the couch. Rebecca nestled on my lap; the others leaned in with heads on shoulders, legs folded snuggly into couch cushions.

Every time we ended a chapter, they begged for just one more. I often agreed because I loved reading these remarkable stories as much as my kids enjoyed hearing them. We laughed and cried together. And we bonded in those hours.

The overwhelming majority of that season of my life was filled with the hard work of meals, laundry, discipline, training, and endless messes to clean up. But our afternoons of reading were pure pleasure. They were an escape for all of us into another time and another world. Our souls were fed together.

They’re never too old

Reading magic isn’t over once your child is too big to climb up on your knees. When my youngest two were teens I sat with them against their twin bed headboards and read The Hiding Place to them, a chapter every night.

The Hiding Place, by Corrie ten Boom, tells about a family that hid Jews from the Nazis during World War II.  A story like this—of courageous faith, of making right choices no matter what the cost—not only helps your children make their own faith decisions, it puts their own problems and normal teen angst into perspective. It’s hard to stay grumpy when you’re snuggled in a warm bed with clean sheets while listening to Corrie describe sleeping in wooden barracks on flea-infested straw in the Ravensbruck concentration camp.

This book prompted discussions about all kinds of big ideas because of the characters and messages that were presented in the story. I didn’t have to ask, “So what do you think about trusting God when it feels too unfair and too difficult?” They got to watch and feel and hear and see a real person live out her faith when it felt impossible.

All thanks to a well told story, kept alive in the pages of a book.

The right kind of books can give us the experience of words, which have power to evoke emotion and a sense of spiritual conviction. Well written books will reinforce the values and morals you want to impart to your children. They help you parent well.

A good book “introduces us to people and places we wouldn’t ordinarily know. A good book is a magic gateway into a wider world of wonder, beauty, delight, and adventure,” Hunt says.

And don’t forget audio books. For many summers on our annual road trips to see grandparents we listened to The Chronicles of Narnia as a family as we rode in the car for hours on end. Time went by more quickly and we had far fewer squabbles to settle because everyone was absorbed in the adventures of Peter, Susan, Edmond, and Lucy.

So summer is here. Your kids will be home. You have the gift of precious extra hours together. And I know you feel like you need something to fill that time!

Here are some of the favorite books I read to my children, divided by age group:

Books for children 2-6
Goodnight Moon (0-3), by Margaret Wise Brown 
The Tale of Peter Rabbit and other Beatrix Potter books (2-4)
Mother Goose nursery rhymes (2-5)
Blueberries for Sal and Make Way for Ducklings, by Robert McCloskey
The Cat in the Hat (2-6), by Dr. Seuss
Madeline (rhyming book, 4-8), by Ludwig Bemelmans
A Child's Garden of Verses (poems and rhymes, 2-6), by Robert Louis Stevenson
Alexander and the Terrible No Good Very Bad Day (4-7+), by Judith Viorst
Frog and Toad books by Arnold Lobel

Books for children 7-12
Dr. Seuss books (the more advanced reading levels)
Amelia Bedelia books by Peggy Parish
Little House on the Prairie (series of 9 books) by Laura Ingalls Wilder
Charlotte's Web, The Trumpeter Swan, Stuart Little, by E.B.White
The Secret Garden, by Frances Hodgson Burnett
The Princess and the Goblin, and The Princess and Curdie, by George MacDonald
The Chronicles of Narnia series (wonderful as audio books too), by C.S. Lewis
A Wrinkle in Time, by Madeline L'Engle
Hans Brinker and the Silver Skates, by Hans Christian Andersen

Books for children 13-17
The Hobbit and The Lord of the Rings series, by J.R.R. Tolkien
The Hiding Place, by Corrie ten Boom
Anne of Green Gables, by Lucy Maud Montgomery (the 1985 TV series is also good)
God's Smuggler, by Brother Andrew
Byzantium, by Stephen Lawhead
Nicholas and Alexandra, by Robert Massie

For more ideas, order Gladys Hunt’s book, Honey for a Child’s Heart or the version for teens, Honey for a Teen’s Heart. And check out your local library for incentives they may offer, carefully guiding your child’s book selections. Not all books are good books. 

Listen to Barbara Rainey and Tracy Lane talk more about the importance of encouraging your children to love the written word on FamilyLife Today®. They also offer practical tips on how to engage young children as well as teens.

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Meet the Author: Barbara Rainey

Barbara Rainey is a wife, mother of six adult children (plus three sons-in-law and two daughters-in-law), and "Mimi" to nineteen grandchildren.

After graduating from the University of Arkansas with a Bachelor of Arts degree in history, Barbara joined the staff of Campus Crusade for Christ in 1971. Her husband, Dennis, whom she married in 1972, is the President of FamilyLife, a ministry of Cru that is headquartered in Little Rock, Arkansas.

Barbara has published articles on family-related topics and is the author of Thanksgiving: A Time to Remember and When Christmas Came.  She speaks at FamilyLife’s Weekend to Remember® marriage conferences and is a frequent guest on FamilyLife Today®, a nationally syndicated, daily radio program.  She and Dennis are the coauthors of several books, including Growing a Spiritually Strong Family, Starting Your Marriage Right, Moments Together for Couples, The New Building Your Mate’s Self-Esteem, Parenting Today’s Adolescent, Rekindling the Romance, and Moments with You. She co-authored A Mother’s Legacy with her daughter, Ashley Rainey Escue and joined Dennis and their children Rebecca and Samuel on the book So You’re About To Be A Teenager. Barbara has also co-authored Barbara and Susan’s Guide to the Empty Nest, with close friend Susan Yates, and A Symphony in the Dark, written with her daughter, Rebecca Rainey Mutz. And Barbara has written a series focusing on character traits for families, including the titles Growing Together in Gratitude, Growing Together in Courage, Growing Together in Forgiveness, and Growing Together in Truth.

Having faithfully served alongside Dennis for more than 30 years, both in ministry and at home, Barbara has recently launched a new endeavor called Ever Thine Home™.  This new line of products, including Christ centered ornaments for Christmas, teaching tools for Lent and Easter, and beautiful additions for your home for thanksgiving and year round makes it easy to express faith at home in a way that is both biblical and beautiful.  Her heart for Ever Thine Home is based on the familiar Old Testament instruction:

“And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” (Deuteronomy 6:9, ESV)

You can read more about Barbara’s work at EverThineHome.com.




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