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Understanding Differences

with Scott Kedersha | July 16, 2019
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Author Scott Kedersha walks us through a few of the questions couples should ask before getting married. According to Kedersha, one of the biggest issues for couples is dealing with differences. When we're married to someone who's different, it helps us become more like Christ. He reminds us that the things that drive you crazy now become so much less important down the road.

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  • Author Scott Kedersha walks us through a few of the questions couples should ask before getting married. According to Kedersha, one of the biggest issues for couples is dealing with differences. When we're married to someone who's different, it helps us become more like Christ. He reminds us that the things that drive you crazy now become so much less important down the road.

  • Dave and Ann Wilson

    Dave and Ann Wilson are hosts of FamilyLife Today®, FamilyLife’s nationally-syndicated radio program. Dave and Ann have been married for more than 38 years and have spent the last 33 teaching and mentoring couples and parents across the country. They have been featured speakers at FamilyLife’s Weekend to Remember® marriage getaway since 1993 and have also hosted their own marriage conferences across the country. Cofounders of Kensington Church—a national, multicampus church that hosts more than 14,000 visitors every weekend—the Wilsons are the creative force behind DVD teaching series Rock Your Marriage and The Survival Guide To Parenting, as well as authors of the recently released book Vertical Marriage (Zondervan, 2019). Dave is a graduate of the International School of Theology, where he received a Master of Divinity degree. A Ball State University Hall of Fame quarterback, Dave served the Detroit Lions as chaplain for 33 years. Ann attended the University of Kentucky. She has been active alongside Dave in ministry as a speaker, writer, small-group leader, and mentor to countless wives of professional athletes. The Wilsons live in the Detroit area. They have three grown sons, CJ, Austin, and Cody, three daughters-in-law, and a growing number of grandchildren.

According to Scott Kedersha, one of the biggest issues for couples is dealing with differences. When we’re married to someone who’s different, it helps us become more like Christ. He reminds us that the things that drive you crazy now become so much less important down the road, on FamilyLife Today.

Understanding Differences

With Scott Kedersha
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July 16, 2019
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Bob: When we’re dating, we’re often attracted to differences—ways in which our boyfriend or girlfriend are different than we are. Scott Kedersha says that attraction doesn’t last.

Scott: Eventually, they’re going to realize all of those things they thought were really cute at one point, now, become annoying: They were spontaneous, at one point; now, they’re irresponsible. Organized becomes retentive, and difficult, and unyielding, and stubborn. So what are you going to do when—and you shouldn’t be surprised by it, because you’re going to be different from each other.

Bob: This is FamilyLife Today for Tuesday, July 16th. Our hosts are Dave and Ann Wilson; I'm Bob Lepine. Is there anything we can do—as moms and dads, or as pastors, or just as friends—to help couples, who are thinking about getting married, understand how their differences may eventually get on each other’s nerves? We’ll talk more about that today. Stay with us.

And welcome to FamilyLife Today. Thanks for joining us. You have three married sons; right?

Dave: Yes; we do.

Bob: Were you involved in their premarital preparation? Well, I guess you were; you’re their parents—so of course, you’re involved in their pre—but did you do their classes?

Dave: We did one.

Ann: Yes.

Dave: We did one son’s premarital—

Ann: —and the other son is like: “Are you insane?! Why would you let Mom and Dad do your premarital counseling?!”—[Laughter]—which we were hurt by but totally understood.

Dave: What do you think, honey, when you think back on it? Was it a good choice or not?

Ann: For them?—oh, I don’t know.

Dave: I think it was a bad choice.

Ann: We had fun!

Dave: We loved it!

Ann: But we actually had somebody else do all the stuff on sex. That was wise; wasn’t it? [Laughter]

Bob: Scott Kedersha’s joining us, again, today. Scott, welcome back.

Scott: Thank you.

Bob: Scott is on staff at a church in Dallas—Watermark Church—where he leads the marriage ministry that’s going on there. Six thousand, over the last decade—six/seven thousand engaged couples have gone through premarital with Scott and his team.

Do you have married kids?

Scott: I don’t; I have young kids—they better not be married yet! [Laughter]

Bob: Will you do their premarital?

Scott: I don’t think we will. I mean, I think we’ll be involved in some way; I mean, I sure hope they would learn from Mom and Dad; and we’d love to be as involved as they want us to be. We probably won’t have the sex talk with them; we’ll leave that to somebody else just so they don’t vomit during the session. [Laughter]

Ann: That’s a really good idea!

Bob: It’s good, though, for our kids to hear biblical principles about marriage from somebody other than us; don’t you think?

Dave: Oh, for sure. I think that definitely did happen for our kids as well.

Bob: Scott, you’ve written a book called Ready or Knot?—with K-N-O-T; tying the knot—Ready or Knot? This is for engaged couples to talk about—and maybe, pre-engaged couples.

Scott: Yes.

Bob: You think this is for dating couples to start talking about these things?

Scott: Absolutely. Going back to your number—you said before about 6500 couples come through our pre-married class. Probably, about half of those are seriously dating couples. That doesn’t mean they’re on date one or two with each other—

Bob: Right.

Scott: —it means they’re thinking about putting a ring on the finger.

Ann: Are these potentially remarried couples, too?

Scott: Yes; there are probably about ten/twenty percent of them, a year, will come through as a second marriage, potentially, for one or both of them.

A high majority of them—probably about 60 percent—are actually in that seriously dating category as opposed to engaged.

Dave: I have to ask you this, because I bet you know the data. One of our dreams, at our church, is to lower the divorce rate.

Scott: Yes.

Dave: Have you seen that happen through this process?

Scott: We don’t have any hard data on it; but we would say: “Everything we try to do, we try to do so much on the proactive side of getting them—before they get engaged, before they get married, while they’re newlyweds—so we’re putting a lot of resource, and time, and leaders, and community into helping them build it up from the beginning. We don’t have hard data.

Typically, honestly, what we’re seeing is countless stories have come out—of couples who leave each other and love Jesus. We do think that, of our small groups we do for newlyweds, probably one couple per group, there’s a divorce spared. That’s just what we’ve hypothesized; we can’t prove that. But we’ve certainly seen couples who love the Lord and love one another.

Bob: I’m going to take a quick poll here. We’ve already talked, this week, about the fact that the number-one conversation that these couples need to be having is about faith, and about where they are, and whether Jesus is Lord of their life. If we were to identify the number-one issue that these couples are going to be wrestling with when marriage starts—we’ll assume the faith foundation’s in place: they both love the Lord—but they have other issues.

Pick your issue, and we’ll see if we have agreement on this. Do you know what you think it is?—the number-one issue?

Dave: I’m going to let my wife go first [Laughter], because I know that would be an issue right there. [Laughter]

Ann: I’m thinking conflict—conflict/communication.

Bob: The ability to resolve conflict/the ability to communicate with one another.

Ann: Yes; yes.

Bob: Okay; is that where you were thinking?

Dave: Yes; I was thinking that. I was also thinking—and it’s your first chapter in the book, Scott—is this belief that there’s the “one” and that “She” or “He will complete me,”—you know, that famous line from the Jerry Maguire movie. I think, when couples get disappointed in their marriage—and every couple, at some point, will—they think, “I married the wrong person.” Again, it comes back to what we said before—it comes back to their faith. I think that’s a big deal for couples. They don’t realize that’s going to happen.

Ann: What would you say, Bob?

Bob: Well, I want to get Scott. I want to let him weigh in before—

Dave: Oh, look at you! You’re bailing out!

Ann: Oh, yes; I know! Yes; yes! [Laughter]

Bob: Okay; I’ll go.

Ann: Okay.

Bob: I would think it’s the area that is the most uncomfortable one to have a conversation about—and the one that most couples have already had some experience in before they get married—and that’s sexual intimacy, where they have early issues in this area. They don’t know where to go or how to talk to anybody about it, but it’s part of the frustration that they’re feeling.

We have three different answers. Do you have the right answer for us?

Scott: I’m going to give a fourth one.

Bob: Really?!

Ann: Oh.

Scott: Yes; so I think it’s, honestly, dealing with the differences you have with each other: “How do you deal with quirks and different personality?” It plays into all three of those that you’ve said.

Ann: Oh, so we’re all right and all wrong. [Laughter]

Scott: You’re all right; yes. [Laughter]

Yes; it’s a really good question. I think it’s: “How do you deal with those differences?” You have to realize, pretty quickly on in your relationship, “Okay; this person is radically different than me, so we’re either going to—push through those and work through them—or we’re going to end up breaking up the relationship.”

Bob: Okay; so let’s press into that one—the issue of differences. If you’re coaching a premarital couple, what are the things you’re going to tell them? Because what they’re thinking about each other, early on, is: “It’s amazing! We are so much alike! We like the same music”; “You like lasagna? I love lasagna!”—right? This is why they think they belong together.

Scott: Yes; on May 26, 2004, my wife gave birth to our twin sons—this is related. One is named Duncan; one is named Drew.

Ann: That’s cute.

Scott: They’re about 14 years old.

Bob: Glad the other’s not Doughnut. [Laughter]

Scott: No; I wanted to name one Tim and the other Duncan after Tim Duncan—that’s my personal favorite—but—

Bob: I like that!

Scott: Yes.

Dave: Oh no; oh no—San Antonio Spurs. [Laughter]

Bob: Go for it.

Scott: So conceived at the same moment, same sets of DNA working together to make them, grew in the same womb, born one minute apart, have grown up in the same home with a mom and dad who love the Lord and love them; and they could not be any more different than one another. [Laughter]

Ann: Really?

Scott: Yes; they look different; they act different; different personality; one looks a little more like Kristen/one looks a little more like me; one is more sporty/the other one is more intellectual; one is musical/the other one is highly social and just touchy-feely—very, very different but amazing. We love them both and all these incredible things we see in each of them. They grew up in the same family, and they’re so different from each other.

A man meets a woman—they come from different DNA, different homes, different education, different values, different temperament; one’s a male/one’s a female; and they start dating and move towards marriage. They wonder, “Why aren’t we the same in every way?”—not to go against what you said, Bob—that they definitely do find all the things that are similar: “It’s like we’re made for each other”; right?

Bob: Right.

Scott: But eventually, they’re going to realize all of those things that they thought were really cute, at one point, now become annoying. [Laughter] They were spontaneous at one point; now, they’re irresponsible. “They were so organized,” becomes just retentive, and difficult, and unyielding, and stubborn. What are you going to do when—and you shouldn’t be surprised by it—because you’re going to be different from each other.

Bob: Here’s my hypothesis. We’re attracted to the differences, in part, because I recognize that what’s lacking in me is something that you bring that does fill in the gaps of my life. Mary Ann’s much more organized and self-disciplined than I am.

Dave: I hope so. [Laughter]

Bob: That was cold; that was cold.

Dave: I’m just kidding! [Laughter]

Bob: She is; so I was attracted to somebody, who had those qualities; because I think, in part, I was looking and going, “Those are things I’m not strong in, and I admire somebody who is.”

But you’re exactly right; once we’re married, and she’s using these gifts of hers—it’s like: “This is so annoying. [Laughter] Why does it always have to be this way? What’s with all this discipline? Can’t we just chill a little bit?”—right? That’s where strengths that we see start to get lived out and, maybe, even overused; and they become weaknesses—and there’s a clash.

This was a breakthrough for us. When Mary Ann and I sat down and did one of these inventories that shows you differences/temperament differences. There are a dozen of them; today the big one’s the Enneagram.

Dave: Right.

Ann: Yes.

Bob: In our day, it was the DISC test that you were taking; right? There’s all—Myers—

Dave: —Myers-Briggs.

Ann: What were you on the DISC?

Bob: —Taylor-Johnson. Wait! We’re not going to go into that. [Laughter]

Dave: Ann loves it!

Bob: I was just being a lion with her, right there—that I’m I-D: “We’re not going to do that now, Ann.”

Ann: You’re probably an I-D. [Laughter] Go ahead.

Bob: So, when we found this out, here’s where the breakthrough came. I started to go, “Oh, she’s different,” and then I realized: “She’s not wrong; she’s different. In fact, how she is—there are good things about how she is.” I’d seen it as an irritation and “She should be more like me”; now I was like: “Oh, this is a good quality that is lacking for me. I admire and can benefit from this.”

I used to think, “Why don’t you act like me and think like me?” Now, I was thinking, “I know why you don’t; because you’re not wired like me; and that’s a benefit, not a liability.”

Scott: Yes; that is one of the ways that God most grows us. The most sanctifying thing is that, when we’re married to somebody who’s really different, it helps us become more and more like Christ. First Peter 3:7: “Husbands, live with your wife in an understanding way”—he goes on/the end of the verse says: “so that your prayers may not be hindered.”

God uses those differences to help us become more and more like Christ and to help us become more dependent on Him. Very much like you, I’m so thankful—Kristen is—I’m like the drama queen, is what I say, in our home—you know, just highly emotional/high highs; low lows. We need somebody in our home, when we’re raising four boys, we need somebody who’s levelheaded and can keep calm in the midst of the chaos.

Sometimes, I get frustrated; I’m like, “Show some more emotion!” [Laughter] What I really needed is—better moments, I go, “I’m so thankful for the way that you’re wired, because you make everything better the way that God made you.”

Bob: The number-one difference between the two of you?—is there one big, glaring thing that you would go, “Here’s how we are most different”?

Ann: I’m waiting to see what Dave would say.

Dave: Oh, it doesn’t matter what I say. [Laughter] No; I know what she’s going to say. Watch this—let’s see if I’m right.

Ann: Okay; let’s see.

Dave: She loved this about me when we were pre-married and, then, it became a huge frustration.

Scott: Is it your hairline? [Laughter]

Dave: Spoken by a fellow bald man; right?! [Laughter]

Bob: You’ve gotten into the swing of this pretty good!

Ann: Yes!

Bob: This is like junior high all over again! [Laughter]

Dave: Yes; I would—I’m guessing Ann’s going to say this—my laid-back-ness/my easygoing chill. She’s a driver/Type A: “Let’s get it done. What are we doing today? What boxes are we going to check off today?” I’m like: “It’s a day! Let’s enjoy it!” Is that it?

Ann: Yes; that’s what I would say, too. We have a lot of similarities; and so we have a lot of the same weaknesses, which is frustrating. I used to love how laid-back Dave was; because I was driving hard and intense, and he’s spontaneous. Yes; that drove me crazy.

It’s interesting, too, because, when we were first married, I remember our seminary prof, who was actually the president, Don Weaver, asked me—he said, “What is your favorite quality about Dave?” I said: “I love that he’s laid-back. I love that about him. It helps calm me down.”

Then, later, I thought, “I can’t stand this about him!”—especially after we had kids—like: “You need to step in here!” But now, I would go back to saying: ”I love this about him. It really helps me.”

Dave: Well, see how you talk about it in the book. I would love to hear your thought on that; because I’ve watched Ann—and I hope I’ve done the same thing—go from first, seeing the difference: enjoying it, then not liking it, and now celebrating it. She’s gone all the way from embracing it—your words in the book—to celebrating it.

I’m not going to ask Ann how that happened; I’m going to ask you, because you write about that. How do you get there?

Scott: One of the things I’ve just noticed—a friend of mine pointed this out—it’s those things that used to drive us crazy just become so much less important, down the road. What we tend to do is—we focus on all the things that are frustrating about our spouse. You know, they’re wired differently—their personality’s different; they talk too much; they talk too little/whatever it might be—we just get stuck in those things. Eventually, we realize those things are important; but they’re not the main thing.

Instead, what I’ve had to learn to do—I learned this from Gary Thomas and his book, Cherish—for one year, I took notice of everything that was different about my wife—put it in a journal. For, literally, 365 days, I kept track—not of the wrongs—but of the rights. You know, just a paragraph every day on something about her that I love—that I value, that’s different, that’s unique. At the end of that year, even a couple months in, all those little things that used to annoy me kind of fade away when you realize how incredible she is and what a gift she is.

One, you discover—to go back to your question—you discover and understand what those differences are; you learn to celebrate them, realizing what a gift it is to be married to somebody who’s not just like you; you embrace those differences and go: “I’m not going to make her me. She’s not going to make me her. We’re committed to one another. We have to learn to live with each other in an understanding way, and we celebrate those differences. We don’t keep track of wrongs; we celebrate the good.”

Bob: I’m going to go to what Dave identified; because I think there’s a connection between our differences and the soulmate concept, where we think, “We fit together perfectly.” Here, I’m going back to the 1976 best picture of the year, Rocky.

Scott: Wow!

Bob: You remember, in Rocky, the scene where Polly is asking him, “What do you see in my sister, Adrian?”—right?

Scott: [Imitating Rocky] “Adrian!!” [Laughter]

Bob: And he says, profoundly [imitating Rocky], “She got gaps; I got gaps and together we got no gaps”; right?

Dave: That’s pretty good!

Ann: Ooh, Bob; that’s really good! [Laughter]

Bob: Yes? I just pulled out my best Stallone, right there.

There was some profound theology in there. This idea of a soulmate is: “I have found somebody who gets me, somebody who meshes with me, somebody who fills the empty places in my life.” Honestly, we’re longing for that; right?

Scott: Right.

Bob: To have that in marriage—and some of that happens in marriage—to have that in marriage is a beautiful thing.

When you’re sitting down with an engaged couple and you’re talking to them, and [they] say: “You know, we just—like the first time we met, it was clear that we were meant for each other. We’re on the same page about so much. We have these things…” You don’t want to burst their bubble, but what’s the reality you want to inject into this whole soulmate way of thinking?

Scott: Over the years, there’s been a little bit of shift, where we no longer have to convince people marriage is hard. They see it so much around them. It’s such a broken world we live in. They either grew up in a broken home; they see it in social media/on TV; they see it in their friends; they see it maybe even in their own first marriage or first relationship. People know how difficult it is.

That being said, many pre-married couples still come in with those rose-colored glasses on. We need to lovingly point them to the fact that: “Your spouse is going to let you down. It is guaranteed,” and “We try to make our spouse Jesus—that we do think they are going to complete us and fill in all the gaps.” We just go: “Hey, I want to lovingly tell you—you are going to be disappointed. You’re going to let them down; they’re going to let you down. If you can’t handle that, then you’re not fit to be married.”

That’s why I start the book with this chapter on expectations. You have to expect that things are not going to work out the way you want them to; and if you can’t deal with that, then please hit pause and don’t get married. If you’re willing to deal with the fact that you’re going to let one another down, then you have the opportunity to still pursue to still show grace, and to show mercy, and forgiveness. Everything that the gospel entails/everything that God shows us, we get the same opportunity to share with our spouse. If you can sign up for that, you’re going to do well in marriage; if not, hit pause.

Bob: Scott, I think we do engaged couples a great service when we tell them, ahead of time, what’s coming after they get married. When we can say to them, “There’s a day ahead for you when you’re going to look at your spouse and go, ‘I wonder if I married the wrong person.’” When they hear that, and they just tuck it away—and in the moment, they go, “I can’t even imagine that ever happening,”—right? Then, seven months into the marriage, when they look and go, “I think I married the wrong person,” there’s this little thing that goes off: “Wait! They said that was going to happen! If they knew this was going to happen, maybe this isn’t the end for us—the fact that we’re right here, and I’m not feeling it right now.”

Ann: —that: “This can be normal.”

Bob: Yes!

Ann: I have a question. Sometimes, I’m in a dilemma with pre-marrieds; because they will be struggling, saying, “This is really hard; this isn’t happening…”; but they’ll say, “But this is normal.”

It’s hard for me to know what is normal; when should they get out?—or saying, “It shouldn’t be this hard at this point.” How do you advise couples when they’re going through that?—“I just need to love him,” or “I just need to respect him.” How do you know when they should pull out rather than work through it?

Scott: It’s finding that right tension between telling how hard marriage will be at times but, also, talking about how great it is.

Ann: Yes.

Scott: Part of the reason why so many young couples are not getting married anymore is because all they hear about is married couples, like the four of us—[Laughter]—all we talk about is how difficult it is and how challenging it is. We look around and we wonder: “Why are pre-married couples choosing to move in together? Why are they choosing to not choose marriage and choose everything else?”—“I want to go on the great trip to Europe,” “I want to drive the nice car,” “ I want to get the pet,” “I want to do anything but get married.”

We see them go from relationship to relationship to relationship. We wonder: “Well, it’s just these young Millennials. They don’t understand marriage; they don’t understand commitment.” There might be something going on there. I think the bigger problem is that we have not created and cast a compelling picture for what marriage is—telling them: “Yes; you’re going to struggle. You’re never going to be 100 percent confident of this decision. It’s impossible; no dating couple has ever moved forward with 100 percent confidence.”

But if we cast this picture that—“Yes; it’s going to let you down at times; but man, it is good, and glorious, and one of the greatest gifts around,”—I think we’re going to see couples push through those things and not be so afraid, moving forward into marriage.

Bob: Are you glad you’re married?

Ann: So glad!

Dave: It’s the greatest decision I’ve ever made, second to Christ; and it’s the hardest, but it’s awesome. It’s worth it!

Bob: Are you glad you’re married?

Scott: I echo everything Dave said.

Bob: I’d be a mess. [Laughter] I’d be a hot mess—a dumpster fire is what I would say here—[Laughter]—

Ann: I love the dumpster fire analogy!

Bob: —if I was not married.

I want everybody, who’s listening, to hear—we think marriage is awesome and great, but it’s hard. That’s why having conversations like the ones you’ve outlined in this book is so important and so helpful for couples. The book we’re talking about is Scott Kedersha’s book, Ready or Knot? —K-N-O-T—12 Conversations Every Couple Needs to Have Before Marriage. We are making the book available, this week, to listeners who can help support the ministry of FamilyLife® with a donation. We depend on your donations for all that we do, here, at FamilyLife.

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And we hope you’ll be back with us, again, tomorrow. We’re going to talk about how transparent an engaged couple ought to be with one another about their past, especially things in their past that they may be ashamed of or that they’re embarrassed about. Scott Kedersha joins us, again, tomorrow to talk about that. I hope you can be here as well.

I want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our hosts, Dave and Ann Wilson, I’m Bob Lepine. We will see you back next time for another edition of FamilyLife Today.

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