I believe in marriage. Between one man and one woman for life. God designed marriage and that was His intention.
My parents have been married for 53 years. My sister has been married for 29 years. My brothers for 22 years and 15 years. Me, for 24 years.
Have those 143 years of marriage been easy? No.
Have there been troubles? Yes.
But, you see, a covenant before God was made and words were spoken.
Remember “I do”?
For better, for worse. I do.
In sickness and in health. I do.
For richer, for poorer. I do.
Till death do us part. I do.
For those who were unable to keep the covenant, I do not condemn you or begin to understand the trials in your life and marriage. And I am sorry for your pain.
But for those who are still married and are contemplating divorce, I ask you to consider the possibility that you, too, can provide a piece of a legacy that could stand for 143 years (and counting).
Whatever issues you have with your current spouse may dissolve with the marriage. However, new issues with a new person in your life will develop—it is human nature to have issues. If you are facing problems and need help, maybe you would like to connect with an anonymous online mentor who will provide practical advice and prayer support.
Consider this: Is God allowing those issues to surface in order to draw you closer to Him and cause you to change and be molded into someone more like Him?
Before you walk away from the “worse” in your marriage, would you prayerfully consider attending a Weekend to Remember® marriage getaway? Maybe the only reason your marriage is suffering is simply that no one ever taught you how to do marriage.
You learned how to drive a car … right? You learned how to perform your job at work … right? If someone could actually teach you how to do marriage, wouldn’t you want to try one last-ditch effort before you walked away?
Think about it. I have seen the letters from couples who were headed to divorce and agreed to attend the Weekend to Remember as a last resort on the way to the courthouse. I’ve seen the ripped divorce papers and read the thank you letters from grateful children.
Do you want to attend a Weekend to Remember … just in case your marriage can be saved?
Here’s a new opportunity to say, “I do.”
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This article first appeared in MomLife Today, a FamilyLife blog to encourage and equip mothers.
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