Your Daily Love Dare


Starting this month, FamilyLife® is challenging couples to "love like you mean it" by joining our 40-day Love Dare challenge. Based on the Love Dare book from the movie Fireproof, the challenge is a practical way for you to practice unconditional love and transform your marriage by applying simple, biblical principles to your everyday life.

Every day from January 5th to February 13th, we’ll give you a Love Dare for the day for you to put into practice and show love to your spouse. Then, at the end of the challenge, we encourage you to celebrate your spouse with a special Valentine’s Day date.

You can receive your daily Love Dare one of three ways:

  • Visit this website (this page) each afternoon to see your daily Love Dare.
  • Register to receive your daily Love Dare via email each morning.
  • Tune in each day to FamilyLife Today™ to hear your Love Dare for the day.

Love Dare - Day 40

Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home.
Ruth 1:16

Date: 2/13/2009


Love Dare - Day 39

Spend time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your spouse. Leave it in a place where you mate will find it.
I Corinthians 13:8

Date: 2/12/2009


Love Dare - Day 38

Ask yourself what your spouse would want if it was obtainable, then map out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires.
Psalm 37:4

Date: 2/11/2009


Love Dare - Day 37

Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together.
Matthew 18:19

Date: 2/10/2009


Love Dare - Day 36

Commit to reading the bible every day. If your spouse is open to it, see if they will commit to reading with you.
Psalm 119:105

Date: 2/9/2009


Love Dare - Day 35

Find a Christian marriage mentor. Ask God to direct your decisions and discernment.
Proverbs 15:22

Date: 2/8/2009


Love Dare - Day 34

Verbally commend your spouse about a recent time when they demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way.
I Corinthians 13:6

Date: 2/7/2009


Love Dare - Day 33

Tell your spouse that you desire to include them in your upcoming decisions, and that you need their perspective and counsel.
Ecclesiastes 4:11

Date: 2/6/2009


Love Dare - Day 32

If at all possible, try to initiate sex with your spouse today (in a way that honors them).
I Corinthians 7:3

Date: 2/5/2009


Love Dare - Day 31

Commit to God and your spouse to make your marriage the top priority over every other human relationship.
Genesis 2:24

Date: 2/4/2009


Love Dare - Day 30

Ask the Lord to reveal anything in your own heart that is threatening oneness with your spouse and, if appropriate, discuss it openly and seek God for unity.
John 17:11

Date: 2/3/2009


Love Dare - Day 29

Before you see your spouse again today, pray for them by name and for their needs.
Ephesians 6:7

Date: 2/2/2009


Love Dare - Day 28

Purpose to do what you can to meet the greatest need in your spouse's life right now.
I John 3:16

Date: 2/1/2009


Love Dare - Day 27

Think of one area where your spouse has told you you're expecting too much, and tell them you're sorry for being so hard on them about it.
Psalm 25:20

Date: 1/31/2009


Love Dare - Day 26

Ask for God's forgiveness for your areas of wrongdoing, then humble yourself enough to admit them to your spouse.
Romans 2:1

Date: 1/30/2009


Love Dare - Day 25

If there is anything you haven't forgiven in your spouse, forgive it today.
2 Corinthians 2:10

Date: 1/29/2009


Love Dare - Day 24

Identify every object of lust in your life and remove it.
I John 2:17

Date: 1/28/2009


Love Dare - Day 23

Remove anything that is hindering your relationship, stealing your affections and turning your heart away from your spouse.
I Corinthians 13:7

Date: 1/27/2009


Love Dare - Day 22

Choose to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it.
Hosea 2:20

Date: 1/26/2009


Love Dare - Day 21

Make time to pray and read your bible today.
Isaiah 58:11

Date: 1/25/2009


Love Dare - Day 20

Dare to take God at his word and trust Jesus Christ for salvation.
Romans 5:6

Date: 1/24/2009


Love Dare - Day 19

Ask God to show you where you stand with him, and ask for the strength and grace to settle your eternal destination.
I John 4:7

Date: 1/23/2009


Love Dare - Day 18

Prepare a special dinner at home and focus this time on getting to know your spouse better.
Proverbs 3:13

Date: 1/22/2009


Love Dare - Day 17

Determine to guard your mate's secrets and pray for them.
Proverbs 17:9

Date: 1/21/2009


Love Dare - Day 16

Pray for three specific areas where you desire for God to work in your spouse's life and in your marriage.
3 John 2

Date: 1/20/2009


Love Dare - Day 15

Choose a way to show honor and respect to your spouse that is above your normal routine.
I Peter 3:7

Date: 1/19/2009


Love Dare - Day 14

Purposefully neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse.
Ecclesiastes 9:9

Date: 1/18/2009


Love Dare - Day 13

Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement and resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.
Mark 3:25

Date: 1/17/2009


Love Dare - Day 12

Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse.
Philippians 2:4

Date: 1/16/2009


Love Dare - Day 11

What need does your spouse have that you could meet today? Example: Choose a gesture that says “I love you" and do it with a smile.
Ephesians 5:28

Date: 1/15/2009


Love Dare - Day 11

What need does your spouse have that you could meet today? Example: Choose a gesture that says “I love you" and do it with a smile.
Ephesians 5:28

Date: 1/15/2009


Love Dare - Day 10

Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse.
Romans 5:8

Date: 1/14/2009


Love Dare - Day 9

Think of a way to greet your spouse today to reflect your love for them, and then do it with a smile and enthusiasm. 
I Peter 5:14

Date: 1/13/2009


Love Dare - Day 8

Share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.
Song of Solomon 8:6

Date: 1/12/2009


Love Dare - Day 7

On a sheet of paper, write out positive things about your spouse. At some point during the day, pick a positive attribute from the list and thank your spouse for having the characteristic.
I Corinthians 13:7

Date: 1/11/2009


Love Dare - Day 6

Choose to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation.
Proverbs 16:32

Date: 1/10/2009


Love Dare - Day 5

Ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you. You must do so without attacking them.
Proverbs 27:14

Date: 1/9/2009


Love Dare - Day 4

Contact your spouse sometime during the day and ask how he or she is doing and if there is anything you could do for them.
Psalm 139: 17-18

Date: 1/8/2009


Love Dare - Day 3

Buy your spouse something that says, "I was thinking about you today."
Romans 12:10

Date: 1/7/2009


Love Dare - Day 2

Do at least one unexpected gesture to your spouse as an act of kindness.
Ephesians 4:32

Date: 1/6/2009