Meeting and Greeting Rule # 38
Rule:To make a first impression, keep your hands visible. Reason:When our hands are hidden, we may appear sneaky or insecure. Application:Try to keep your hands out of your pockets unless you must retrieve something. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 37
Rule:Children should be taught to tidy up after themselves when they perform their grooming duties. Reason:Their future spouse will thank you, the parent, for teaching them. Application:Provide the towel rack, drawer, tray, or whatever is necessary for the child to organize the toiletries. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 36
Rule:Grooming should not be done in public. Grooming usually involves combs, makeup, toothpicks, nail clippers, etc. Reason:Grooming is a personal chore done privately - one that no one wants to watch others perform. Application:Teach your child not to use a comb or hair brush in public, unless others are using such things in a room such as a rehearsal room or bathroom. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 35
Rule:“Cleanliness is next to godliness” is not a quote from the Bible, but perhaps, it could be. Reason:Cleanliness may not be in your child’s vocabulary, and he or she has not read the Bible yet. While some young children detest taking a bath, others won’t have fun playing for fear of getting muddy. Our children must be instructed, gently reminded repeatedly, and shown that cleanliness matters. Application:Make the bath a fun, pleasant activity with music playing or bubbles in the water, or whatever makes the child happy (within reason, of course). Give a child his or her own toiletries and teach him how to organize and keep them tidy. Remember, by the time your child is a teen, he or she may want to bathe several times daily and use more soap and towels than you care to buy. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 34
Rule:Children deserve to be taught how to make good decisions about their grooming and appearance. Reason:A child’s psyche is tender; his spirit may be easily wounded. If forced to wear clothes that are greatly different from those of his peers, he may be so uncomfortable he has trouble paying attention in school or church. Application:As a learning exercise, along with your child, watch for appropriate outfits in the movies, on television, or in catalogues looking for appropriate outfits for the occasion. For instance, let him or her choose the proper type of dress for duck hunting, a sleepover, a swim party, an ice skating event, a wedding, and a birthday party. This activity should be fun and at the same time teach your child that it is important what you choose to wear. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 33
Rule:Proper attire should be worn, but a young child should make some choices in his or her wardrobe. Reason:Clothing makes a statement about the person wearing it and shows respect or disrespect for others. It also affects the way a child feels about himself or herself. Application:Allow your child to choose part of the outfit for the next day at school.
For instance, the child may choose between slacks or a skirt, and then mom or dad can put the remaining coordinated piece together for the outfit. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 32
Rule:By about the age of five, a child should be able to understand that what he wears makes a difference. Reason:Some children seem to be born knowing how to achieve good taste in their clothes and overall appearance. Others struggle with proper attire all their life. Application:Tell your child that you are showing respect for him or her by not showing up for a teacher/parent conference in your pajamas even though you would certainly be more comfortable. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 31
Rule:Shoes should always be clean and in good repair. Reason:People look at your shoes when you are not looking. Scuffed, rundown footwear makes you look careless and/or inattentive to detail. Application:Check often to see if the heels and soles on your shoes need replacing. Make sure your shoestrings are taunt and in tact. All your shoes should be clean and polished if polish is applicable to a particular type shoe. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 30
Rule:When standing or walking, your chin should be kept level with the floor. Reason:With your chin level with the floor, you will more readily look people in the eye. Application:Check your shadow, or check your image in a store window to keep your chin in proper place, or ask a loved one to critique you. A loved one should be kind in making any remarks of criticism. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 29
Rule:To make a positive impression with appropriate bearing, stand erect with your chin level with the floor and your shoulders up. Reason:The way we feel about ourselves is revealed in the way we stand. We may appear lazy, tired, or indifferent. Application:Pretend you have a string attached to your breast bone and someone above you is pulling that string. With a tug from above you will raise your torso, pulling in your midrift, but not throwing your shoulders out of line. When we tell people to hold their shoulders back, we give them instructions in looking unnatural. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 28
Rule:To make a good impression, we should walk confidently while looking straight ahead as if we have a destination. Reason:Taking baby steps and looking at the ground as we walk, makes us look introverted, insecure, or timid. Application:Practice walking in front of a mirror or observe your gait before the store windows as you pass. Doing it with them, teach your children to observe other people for poor walking habits, but never laugh at other people unless they are in the movies or on television. Then it’s all right. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 27
Rule:To make a good first impression, we must observe some other rules besides the six s’s, such as those concerning the way we walk, stand, and appear in our clothes. Reason:People look at our overall appearance in making an impression of us. Application:Apply the “rule of 12.” The first 12 inches above and below your shoulders should be impeccable. If there is a curler in our hair, or dab of mustard on our mouth, or hair and lint on our shoulders, the impression we give may not be the best. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 26
Rule:The way you teach the six s’s to your child is very important. Reason:Children are born with different personalities. Some are outgoing and friendly from their infancy. Others are shy, reserved, and perhaps, easily intimidated. Application:When the two of you are alone, practice the six s’s: stand, smile, see, shake, speak, and say. Perhaps, a shy child can practice them with a teddy bear or a doll. With a high-energy, people-loving child, you can teach the six s’s with almost anyone, anytime. Always take your child’s temperament and feelings into consideration when you teach any of the manners rules. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 25
Rule:A shy child may smile, nod, and try very hard to look the new person in the eye when he or she meets someone. Reason:It may be too uncomfortable for a very shy, reserved child to shake hands and talk to a stranger. Application:Encourage your child often to practice the six s’s, but don’t force him or her every time the opportunity arises. Modeling the proper procedure before your child will teach more than your demands can accomplish. Children are likely to do what their parents do. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake their hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 24
Rule:Children should be introduced and taught to use an adult’s last name in addressing him or her. Reason:Using an adult’s last name shows respect. Children who are taught to meet and greet people show self-confidence, maturity, and interest in other people. Practicing the six s’s creates a habit children will use all their life. Application:There are a number of ways to teach your children to meet and greet others. Some examples:
1) When you and your child approach an adult friend, you should recognize your child to your friend.
2) Practice the six s’s at family reunions.
3) When playmates come over, you can teach your child to introduce you, the parent, to the other children. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 23
Rule:People are expected to give us their name when we meet them, but if they do not, we may ask them for their name. Reason:Sometimes other people do not know the six s’s, or they are shy and do not realize they are failing to give you their name, or perhaps, they think you already know it. Application:If you do not hear someone give his or her name, simply say, “My name is Tom Nichols. May I ask yours?” Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 22
Rule:The sixth “s” is say the person’s name back to him or her. The person you are meeting deserves to hear his or her name repeated. Repeat the name as you say, “Hello, Mary Ann (or Mrs. Drews).” Reason:By repeating the name you will find it easier to remember, and people like to hear their names. By repeating the name, you will make sure you heard it correctly. Application:If you do not understand a person’s name when you first hear it, ask to have it repeated. You can say, “I’m sorry; could you say your name again, please (or something similar)?” The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 21
Rule:The fifth “s” is speak your name. Introduce yourself after you stand, smile, see their eyes, and shake their hand. If the two of you have never met and there is no one to introduce you to the new acquaintance. Reason:People need to know our names and what to call us. Application:Learn to say your name slowly, clearly, and distinctly. If you run your first and last name together such as Maryanndrews, it is difficult to discern the first name from the last. If you say, “My name is Mary Ann (slight pause) Drews, your new friend will understand and perhaps, remember your name. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake their hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 20
Rule:It is not mandatory to shake hands if you have a crippled hand or simply do not wish to shake hands. Your hands should be kept behind you or out of sight. Reason:It makes others who extend their hand for a handshake uncomfortable, if their offer is not reciprocated. They feel rejected. If your hands are out of sight, the greeter can see that you do not wish to shake hands. Application:Kindly say, “You won’t mind if I don’t shake hands; I have a bad case of arthritis,” or simply say, “Sorry, I can’t shake hands.” By saying something, you put the other person at ease. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake their hand, speak your name, say their name back to them when they introduce themselves. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 19
Rule:It is important to shake hands, even if you have a problem with wet or sweaty palms. Reason:It is always awkward when people extend their hand and we don’t respond in kind. Application:Wipe your right hand on your clothes before you extend it. You may say, “Excuse my cold (or wet) hand” or you may simply say nothing about your hand. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 18
Rule:It is proper to shake hands when meeting someone for the first time, at chance meetings, and for all farewells. Reason:It is a warm and proper expression of sentiment. Application:Get in the habit of shaking hands as often as possible to become comfortable doing so. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 17
Rule:Females shake hands properly when they extend their right hand in a vertical position with the thumb pointing upward and the little finger pointing downward. Reason:When a lady puts her hand out, palm down, the man has a difficult time grasping it for a handshake. Application:Ladies, extend your hand properly and put the gentleman at ease; otherwise, he may think you expect him to kiss the top of your hand as you present it to him. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 16
Rule:In business, the handshake is the only appropriate greeting. Reason:The National Institute of Business Management says that hugging and back slapping are not acceptable in corporate America. Application:Be quick to extend your hand in business before the other person grabs you for a big bear hug. Business people usually shake hands until they finish greeting one another by name. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 15
Rule:To show special affection or gratitude, you may place your left hand on the top of the handshake, therefore using both hands for the handshake. Reason:Sometimes we want to do a little more than simply shake hands. We feel a special affection or gratitude toward the person we are greeting. Application:Extend your right hand and with your left hand place it on top of the handshake, giving the person a big smile as you look him or her in the eyes, say the person’s name, and express a hearty hello, or some other sentiment. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 14
Rule:When one of the two individuals shaking hands has a crippled or arthritic right hand, the left hand may be offered. Reason:Usually, the individual with an impaired right hand wishes to make the same hand gesture when meeting someone. Application:If you are the individual with no impairment, extend your right hand and take the other’s hand from the side, grasping the left side of the other individual’s left hand. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
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