Meeting and Greeting Rule # 13
Rule:In business, men and women shake hands the same. Reason:Long ago, a handshake was all that was needed to seal a business deal. When an individual shook hands on a matter, it was as good as done. Application:Shake hands to show your friendliness, the assurance of your word, to say goodbye to someone, and in other relationship situations. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 12
Rule:The handshake should last only a few seconds. Reason:A few gentle pumps up and down, with either person releasing the clasp first, is all that is necessary. Application:As you smile, see their eyes, shake hands with everyone you meet the first time or on subsequent meetings. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 11
Rule:Formerly, a man was taught to allow the lady to extend her hand before he extended his for a handshake, in social situations. Reason:When handshakes first came into practice in the pioneer days of our country’s history, women did not shake hands at all. A man kissed a lady’s hand. The hand-kissing custom died with petticoats and bloomers. Therefore, when hand kissing fell out of favor in the early part of the twentieth century, the lady simply smiled at the man, and he tipped his hat to her when they met. Application:Today, in social and business circles, be quick to initiate the handshake, whether you are male or female. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 10
Rule:Males and females shake hands the same way - firm, but not crushing. Women shake hands with women and with men, as men do. Reason:No one likes a limp, fishlike clasp of the hands. Application:Extend your right hand with your thumb upward and your little finger downward. When you reach for the other person’s hand, slide the web between your thumb and forefinger in to meet the web of the other person’s hand. Then clasp firmly. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 9
Rule:The fourth “s” is shake the other person’s hand. Reason:In our country the customary greeting is to extend the right hand, clasping the other person’s hand and shaking it. The reason for our particular way of shaking hands is that our country was settled by men who carried weapons such as guns for protection. To show he was a friend and not an enemy, a man extended his open, gun-free hand and from that gesture the handshake was born. In other countries, greeters kiss cheeks, bow, or make some other gesture. Application:Teach your children when and how to shake hands. It will give them more confidence in meeting people. Grown-ups will notice how mature they are. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 8
Rule:In performing the third “s”, try to look into other people’s eyes. If you cannot, then look from their eyes to their mouth and back to their eyes. Reason:Because of our temperament or personality, some of us are shy or reserved and find it difficult to look directly at people. It’s not polite to stare which is looking at someone without blinking or looking away. Application:If you have trouble looking people in the eye, learn to look around their face, but never away from it. If you avert your eyes to the side or to the floor, you will appear ill at ease, making the other person feel uncomfortable. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 7
Rule:The third “s” is see their eyes. When you are speaking to or listening to people, always look into their eyes. Reason:It has been said that the eyes are the window of the soul. When we look people in the eye, we show that we care enough to give them our full attention. Application:If you have trouble looking people in the eye as you talk or listen to them, practice in front of a mirror. Look into a mirror and introduce yourself. You may feel silly at first, but it will become easier. Practice especially with family members. We often neglect to give our attention to members of our family because they seem to always be around. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 6
Rule:The second “s” is smile. When meeting someone for the first time and any time thereafter, give them a smile. Reason:A smile is the same in any language. Everyone likes to be greeted with a smile. Application:If you meet someone not wearing a smile, give them one of yours. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 5
Rule:Men should stand when a lady gets up from a dining table and when she returns. Reason:A man can help the lady pull out her chair and reseat herself. Application:There is a long, time-honored custom in our country that says men should stand and assist ladies. It shows deference (honor). The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 4
Rule:Children should stand for older people. Men should stand when a lady or ladies enter a room. Reason:To show respect. Application:Children imitate their parents. The best way for parents to teach the rules of standing is to model them. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 3
Rule:The first “s” is stand. When you are meeting someone for the first time and any time thereafter, stand if they are standing. (Exception: Sometimes it is not practical or even possible to stand. Use common sense. For instance, you are sitting in your car in a parking lot and a friend brings someone over to meet you as they stand outside your car door, you would have to get out of the car.) Reason:Standing puts you at eye level with the other person and shows respect. Application:Teach your children to stand for adults they are meeting and also any time an adult walks into the room when possible. In teaching your children you will remember to do it yourself and your children will learn a skill they will use all their lives. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 2
Rule:Use the six s’s to make a good first impression. The Six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, and say the name of the person you are meeting back to him or her. Reason:Practicing these six steps properly will almost insure that you make a good first impression. Application:Learn how to perform the six s’s and teach them to your children. By doing so, you can get your focus off yourself and your fear of making a faux pas, thus concentrating on the individual you are meeting. The six s’s are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, say the person’s name back to him or her. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Meeting and Greeting Rule # 1
Rule:There is no second chance to make a first impression. Reason:People usually form their opinion in the first thirty seconds of seeing us by judging our appearance, our visual communication, and our speech. They evaluate our inner qualities later. Application:Learn the six s’s in the following days on this site, and you will be equipped and feel more confident. They are stand, smile, see their eyes, shake hands, speak your name, and say their name back to them. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Electronic Etiquette (or Netiquette) Rule # 20
Rule:Guests should always ask permission before using someone’s fax machine. Reason:Some fax transmissions incur long distance charges. Application:If an emergency arises in which someone’s fax machine must be used, insist on paying the charges. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Electronic Etiquette (or Netiquette) Rule # 19
Rule:When sending a fax, you may call ahead to alert the recipient that you are sending a fax to him or her. Reason:It is better use of your time and the recipient’s time for someone on the other end of the line to be looking for your document. Application:Call the recipient after your fax transmission to make sure your fax was received by the proper person. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Electronic Etiquette (or Netiquette) Rule # 18
Rule:A fax (facsimile) should not be a substitute for the mail. Reason:Sometimes, personal notes written by hand are more appropriate. Application:Using a stamp and nice paper, handwrite such messages as: thanks, congratulations, condolence, and sympathy notes. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Electronic Etiquette (or Netiquette) Rule # 17
Rule:Include the following with every fax (facsimile document) you send: a cover sheet with the date, the name of the sender, the sender’s fax number and telephone number, the name and fax number of the recipient, the page count (including the cover sheet), and a brief message or explanation of the faxed material to come on the following pages. Reason:All of the information on the cover sheet is needed by the person or persons who receive the fax. Application:Send only pertinent or important information. Junk faxes are never welcome. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Electronic Etiquette (or Netiquette) Rule # 16
Rule:A fax is a document transmitted by a facsimile machine and should be considered public information. Reason:It travels over the phone lines to another fax machine that prints it out for whoever retrieves it to see. Application:Use a fax machine for speedy communication that may be less expensive and more efficient than a telephone call. Do not send anything of a private nature and remember to respect the time and resources of the recipient of your fax. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Electronic Etiquette (or Netiquette) Rule # 15
Rule:Some safety rules apply to all Internet users. Reason:These rules protect our children as well as ourselves from encountering harmful images or activity on the Internet. Application:Children should never give out their address or telephone number on the Internet without a parent’s permission.
· Never download an attachment if you do not know and approve the source.
· Never ignore or click on troubling information you see on the screen. Children should tell their parents.
· Never agree to meet someone you have met on the Internet. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Electronic Etiquette (or Netiquette) Rule # 14
Rule:The Internet is not the appropriate venue for all communication. Some messages must be handwritten. Reason:Handwritten letters and notes have a personal touch to them. Application:Write these messages by hand: congratulations, a hospitality note, a thank-you note, a letter of apology, a letter of introduction, and a condolence or sympathy note. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Electronic Etiquette (or Netiquette) Rule # 13
Rule:When on the Internet don’t send unsolicited mail asking for information on people whose names you happen to see on a mailing list. Reason:It is rude because it invades another’s domain without their permission. Application:Consider how annoying you may find it when you receive a large number of unwanted e-mails that you must consider before determining what action to take. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Electronic Etiquette (or Netiquette) Rule # 12
Rule:If your personal discourse on the Internet will be lengthy, include the word long in the subject header of an E-mail. Reason:A message of over one hundred lines is considered long. Application:If your message is too long, you may want to send it as a file attachment. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Electronic Etiquette (or Netiquette) Rule # 11
Rule:On the Internet you may use abbreviations for commonly-used phrases. Reason:IMHO stands for “in my humble opinion.” Application:Learn the common abbreviations for commonly used phrases to save time. BTW stands for “by the way,” FYI means “for your information.” Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Electronic Etiquette (or Netiquette) Rule # 10
Rule:Do not send spam mail on the Internet. It wastes time and space. Reason:The term spamming describes unwanted, irrelevant messages. Spam is the name of a canned meat product that is a hodgepodge of many different meats. Application:If you make your E-mail messages short and succinct, you will have no need for spamming someone with non-essentials. Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore Click here for a biblical approach and resources on manners.
Electronic Etiquette (or Netiquette) Rule # 09
Rule:Do not use flame mail on the Internet.
Reason:Flame mail consists of personal insults or expressions of strong opinion.
Application:If you write something hurriedly, carelessly, and on impulse, keep your cursor off the send button until you have read and reread your message. Rewrite the message if it is unkind or inappropriate.
Copyright 2003, June Hines Moore
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