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Biblical Principles About Contraception

Dennis Rainey
  1. God is the originator of all life; therefore, life is sacred (Psalm 139, Job 31:15).
  2. Human life was created in the image of God (Genesis 1:26).
  3. Human life begins at conception (Psalm 139:13-16). Any method of contraception that interferes with the healthy development of a fertilized egg (a "zygote") should be avoided.
  4. God has given humankind authority, responsibility, and guardianship to protect human life (Genesis 1:26 and Exodus 20:13).
  5. Scripture doesn't specifically address contraception, but theologians over the years have reasoned through it.
  6. We must embrace a biblical view of children. While the culture tells us children can be a burden, the Bible makes it clear they are a gift.
  7. The biblical command is to be fruitful and multiply (Genesis 1:28). This is one of God's purposes for marriage. Though some couples will deal with infertility, nowhere in Scripture is there any indication that couples can choose on their own not to have any children. In cases of infertility, adoption should be a prayerful alternative.
  8. Contraception needs to be prayerfully determined by you as a couple. There is no specific instruction in Scripture about the size of a family. Make your decisions based on guidance from God and His Word, and not from the principles of the world (Romans 12:1-2).
  9. Your convictions should not be used as a spiritual club on others. Be careful not to be judgmental of others.

©2002 FamilyLife.  Taken from A Biblical Approach to Family Planning audio series.


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Ruth @ 11/15/2008 9:43:03 AM 
I really see this as an issue of trust...trust in God. God is the giver of life, and He doesn't make mistakes...not ever. If we allow Him to "plan our family", then what could be wrong with a plan designed by an infallible God? When we stand before God's throne, will He ever say to anyone, "Why did you have that child? That was a mistake!". So, do we really trust God and His promises? Do we really believe that "...all things work together for good, to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purposes"? As a mother to 11 children here on earth and 2 in heaven, God can be trusted and He does indeed work all things to our good! Even children that are deemed as unfit in our world. Our youngest, born September 20,2008 has Down Syndrome and is made in the image of God and is exactly who God made her to be and a perfect fit for our family. In Christ, Ruth
Tom @ 7/18/2008 10:56:20 AM 
Steve, I appreciate that you want to look to scripture to determine your view, but I'm not sure that I agree with you on that passage. I think Onan's sin was disobeying God, not "spilling his seed." My family has thought deeply on the question of contraception. Today's default stance (even in the church) seems to be we should do what we can to avoid children until *we* decide to have them. At this point, we believe that the default stance for us is that we should *not* use contraceptive methods unless God tells us *to* use them. Still, I am on a journey, and have 6 young kids (so far.) With each child we consider the cost of another child, and so far believe that we should not use contraception. I'm open to continued thought and discussion on this issue. We may change our stance. I don't stand in judgment of others! I ask you to consider whether the view you hold is one based on God's word, or if it's one that you hold simply because the culture says so. In Christ, Tom
Steve @ 7/17/2008 2:27:10 AM 
A very good list, but number 5 is incorrect. (Genesis 38:9-10) God considers contraception a life and death issue. We all must educate ourselves on what God commands and expects from us and then live accordingly.
Please read THE BIBLE AND BIRTH CONTROL by Charles D. Provan or Chapter IV - "The Bible and Birth Control" in John F. Kippley's booklet BIRTH CONTROL AND CHRISTIAN DISCIPLESHIP. John Kippley is with The Couple to Couple League International (www.ccli.org), a great resource.
God bless you all in your journey.
Steve
Ashley @ 7/14/2008 6:31:38 AM 
This is sometthing my husband and I have been talking about. We're newly weds, not married a full year quite yet. I think I'd like lots of kids spaced out rather evenly (About 4-5 kids about 4 years apart or so). My husband doesn't think he can handle that many since he used to live with his brother and his brother's wife's 4 children. He's a very patient man and great with kids. We're both from big families (5 kids apiece) and I'd love to have a larger family than the one or two kids he's thinking of. I know we shouldn't have children until we can afford to maintain them properly (Food, clothes, etc.), and we're both young (early 20s) so we do have some time to plan this properly. Maybe this will help us come to some kind of compromise.

I really appreciate this and will be looking forward to this week's series! Thank you for this ministry!

God Bless!!! :) Ashley
Angela @ 5/8/2008 1:43:35 PM 
Wow! This is great insight! Thank you for putting this information here! God Bless!!! Angie~
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