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Grafting: A Painful but Beautiful Process for Blended Families

Your stepfamily may have another river to cross and a few more battles to face, but don’t give up—significant rewards lie ahead.

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Do You Feel Like an Outsider With Your Stepchildren?

There have been many times as a stepmom when I (Laura) felt like running away from home. The loneliness and frustration often felt overwhelming, and no one seemed to understand. In the…

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Bridge Building Strengthening Relationships with Stepchildren

Few things are more challenging than the role of Christian stepparent.  In short, the stepparent joins the biological parent in raising his or her child, but does so initially without…

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6 Tips for Building Relationships with Your Stepchildren

Improving your relationship with stepchildren is one of the greatest challenges of forming a stepfamily. Use the following suggestions to help you to be intentional about slowly building your relationships:…

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A Matter of Perspective

For years, dating couples with children from previous relationships and married couples in blended families have had polar opposite reactions to my books. Why? Because they have different perspectives. Dating…

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Becoming Friends and Family

If you are marrying for a second time in later life, you may assume that you know what to expect. Although there is some truth to this, the new family…

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How can I as a stepparent develop and maintain healthy relationships with my stepchildren

One of the most challenging and complicated problems facing families today is the issue of developing and maintaining healthy relationships with stepchildren. Undoubtedly, many new spouses must feel, upon entering…

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The Dance of Want

There is a powerful and sometimes ominous dynamic at play in blended families. Desiring connection and security within family relationships is normal and expected. But when relationships are undefined and…

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The Attachment Difference

Have you ever wondered why one person hears the word of God and follows it, while another ignores it? Why does one person see—and heed—the wisdom of God’s laws for…

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Second-Half Stepfamilies

Most people are very surprised to learn that adult stepfamilies (those that are formed in the second-half of life and include adult stepchildren) have just as many transitions as stepfamilies…

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The Blame Game

“I just can’t put my finger on it, Ron. For some reason, I just can’t break through the walls my stepkids are putting up.” Weston had been a stepdad for…

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When the Children Feel Alienated

Three years into his mom’s marriage, Samuel, a 14-year-old boy, told me, “I used to be best friends with mom. But I got pushed back to fifth place when she…

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How to Build a Relationship With Your Stepchild

Little is more challenging than the role of Christian stepparent. In short, the stepparent joins the biological parent in raising his or her child, but does so initially without a…

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