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When My Husband Said ‘No’ to Aborting Ou...

I never expected to have another baby, period. Much less another baby who isn’t healthy. And even more, another baby who “should be aborted.”
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Weekly Schedule Overload? 3 Questions to Ask

With the summer break, now is a great time to reevaluate your family’s weekly schedule. Before penciling anything in, here are three questions to ask.
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The Cost of Raising a Child: How to Tell Kid...

Maybe you're feeling the cost of raising a child now more than ever. How can you tell your child, "We can't afford that"?
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Laid Off: Moving Forward After Job Loss

Being laid off brings stress and struggles to make ends meet. But as you search for a job, don’t miss what's in the waiting.
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When Your Spouse Has a Different Stress Resp...

As a married couple, you likely each have a different stress response. How can you leverage relationship stress to draw you together as a team?
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when your spouse faces a layoff

When Your Spouse Faces a Layoff: 5 Ways to H...

When your spouse faces a layoff, hold back on the cliché, this-is-what-you-should-do responses. Instead, here are five ways to help.
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Is Social Distancing Causing Distance in You...

Quarantines, social distancing and health hypervigilance have us out of our routines and comfort zones, causing a host of emotions erupting in marriage.
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losing a spouse

Losing a Spouse is for Life

There are many lessons I’ve gathered on the journey of grief, and one of them is this: The heartache of losing a spouse lasts a lifetime.
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Sick and Tired? Don’t Take It Out on Your...

If absence makes the heart grow fonder, being sick and tired together sucks the fondness right out. But this quarantine means we're stuck in this together.
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When Your Spouse Suffers with Chronic Pain

Every morning I wake up wondering if it’ll be another day of doctors, supplements, tears, and doubts for my spouse who suffers with chronic pain.
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Gray Divorce

3 Ways to Protect Your Marriage From ‘Gray...

I’ve always thought there was some marital finish line protecting your marriage on the other side. But few people warn you about gray divorce.
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When My Wife Told Me She Didn’t Love M...

My wife of 10 years told me she didn't love me anymore. I would have said our marriage was a 10 out of 10. How was I so blind to the deadness of her heart?
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I Married the Wrong Person

In only a few short months, we had gone from gazing lovingly into each other’s eyes to glaring at each other with anger and disgust, each wondering – and not only to ourselves – if we had married the wrong person.
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Help! Is My Spouse Manipulating Me?

Manipulation is a mind game leaving you wondering: Is my spouse manipulating me? We all have unhealthy ways to get what we want. So it’s worth considering.
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retirement

Aah, Retirement. What could go wrong?

How could we possibly think retirement, changing health, and decline ahead wouldn't have surprises and challenges like our 40+ years of marriage?
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5 Reasons Your Marriage Isn’t as Bad a...

How do we know in the middle of deep despair if it’s time to throw the house key in his face? Or if we can check our emotions and reevaluate? 
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the Enneagram and marriage

The Enneagram and My Marriage

I’m Jenn. I’m a 9. If you’re a 6, like my husband, you’re waiting to decide if I’m knowledgeable about the Enneagram until after you hear what I say.
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Balancing Family and Career for the Young Pr...

More stuff means more bills. More bills require more work.The work life balance cycle is as paralyzing as it is addictive. And it is luring every American family.
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debt in marriage

I Thought Our Debt Was His Problem

I didn’t want to work hard to hand my paycheck over to cover his debt. I wanted to spend my money my way. He is the one who went to college and accrued it!
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Sex After Baby: From Her Side of the Bed

I struggled with a lot of fear when it came to sex after baby! I avoided telling my husband that I was wrestling with a lack of desire for quite awhile.
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Sex After Baby: From His Side of the Bed

When and how do you get back into physical intimacy with each other after a new baby? As the husband, I have learned 3 nonnegotiables for sex after baby.  
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“I want sex more than he does!”...

1 in 5 women have the higher sex drive. But when our husbands decline--or rarely initiate sex--it leaves us thinking, What's wrong with him? Or is it me?
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If Bill Gates Can Drop Off His Kids, So Can...

When dads share the household responsibilities, it’s a win-win for the family and a win-win for society. Bill Gates, tech guru, and wife Melinda proved it.
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When Your Man’s Long Hours Don’t...

Following a Major League Baseball career, my husband's work led to a new demanding position. So, I came home to an empty house and had dinner alone again.
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Married Single Parent

I Am a Married Single Parent

I am still legally married. But all the things that a marriage typically brings, especially in the world of parenting, do not exist in our marriage.
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Cost of parenting kids

Kids Are Worth Every Single Penny—and More

At the end of my life, I won’t be sad about what I couldn't afford. I’ll be thankful for the rich memories and lives we’ve built with our children.
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Shopping on a budget

Soothing the Shopping Itch Without Breaking...

Ideas to help you feel like you’re living in luxury without spending much money … or any at all.
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Stay Connected With Your Spouse While You're raising your kids

Connecting With Your Spouse Through the Busy...

When we became parents, our entire universe shifted. What happened to the couple we were?
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Marriage

When Was the Last Time Your Marriage Had a P...

You might make sure to head to the doctor each year like clockwork, but when is the last time your marriage had a physical?
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Why You Need to Get Away

Spending an entire weekend learning how to communicate, grow in oneness, and love one another better was like hitting a reset to our busy lives.
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Marriage Getaway

Marriage Is for Me… Right?

Conflict over money and infidelity might be some of the most common reasons for getting a divorce in our society, but I’d argue that there’s a more common root to most separations:“I’m just not happy anymore.”
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The Eight Symbols of Isolation

The 8 Symbols of Isolation in Marriage

Every day each partner in a marriage makes choices that result in oneness or in isolation.
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Who Does the Housework?

How can we uphold what the Bible says about marital relationships and make good decisions about housework?
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Why Sex Is So Important to Your Husband

God wired men and women very differently. And a man's sexual performance with his wife is an inseparable part of who he is.
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He Returned Home a Troubled Man

Rusty Mauney couldn’t forget his wartime experience in Iraq. As he found relief in alcohol, his wife, Marsha, began asking God to save their marriage.
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3 Keys to Living in Contentment

3 Keys to Living in Contentment

We can learn to live happily even if we are denied things we consider essential.
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Cherish your spouse

A Backdoor to Happiness in Marriage

If you want a great relationship, learn to showcase your spouse.
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7 Truths to Remember in Troubled Times

Concerned about economic, political, racial, and moral instability in our culture? Disheartened by struggles in your personal life? Here’s what to focus on when the ground shakes beneath your feet.
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2 Steps to Keep Your Marriage From Going Stale

2 Steps to Keep Your Marriage From Going Sta...

A husband and wife often begin drifting apart so slowly that they hardly recognize it's happening.
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Marriage Always Turns Out Different Than Exp...

My wife's suffering taught us that marriage can bind our hearts together in an unconditional love that our human emotions could never manufacture on their own.
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Embracing Your Differences in Marriage

The unique, fresh traits that attracted you to your spouse can become tiresome after you are married.
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3 Weeds to Pull From Your Marriage Garden

3 Weeds to Pull From Your Marriage Garden

No matter how much effort goes into a garden, it will all be in vain if you don't deal with weeds.The same goes with marriage.
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Adrift in Marriage

Jerry and Olivia Dugan wanted to stay married but didn’t know how.
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Isolation in marriage

9 Steps to Defeat Isolation in Your Marriage

Every marriage, no matter how good, needs a plan to combat isolation and to bring about intimacy.
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Face Your Blitzes With Confidence

When you face hardships, it helps to know the truth about God’s peace and sovereignty.
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Caregiver

Growing Old Together: Like a Beautiful Old B...

I wouldn’t trade our empty nest years for the relationship we had in our youth for anything.
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She Was Ready to Leave Her Husband

She Was Ready to Leave Her Husband

Before she got a divorce, her mother had one task for her to complete.
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Do We Have to Talk About Submission?

Submission is one of those often caricatured, rarely understood parts of the Christian life.
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Money and budget

Balancing the Family Budget

Five pointers that will benefit any couple.
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Don’t Get Stuck in the Empty Nest

As we've moved through this new season of our lives, we've realized that God has something great planned for our future together.
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Three Pitfalls to Avoid in an Empty Nest Marriage

Three Pitfalls to Avoid in an Empty Nest Mar...

When your kids leave the home, you are forced to consider your marriage relationship in a new light.
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Grieving after a tragedy

Walking Through Tragedy: Looking for Graces

The blessings that took place in my life after tragedy gave me hope and reminded me that there was someone larger than this life who is in control.
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When a Spouse Dies

Sometimes the futility of life strikes hard and we're forced to look for the hidden treasures.
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Are You Done Making a Difference?

Too many men over 55 think their best days are behind them. It’s time to resurrect the noble mantle of “patriarch.”
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Dancing With the Stars? Not Exactly.

I learned more than rhythm while taking dancing lessons with my husband.
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Loving the Prime Time Years

Part of our passion is encouraging couples to determine how God can use them after their children leave the nest.
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Overcoming Loneliness When Your Children Leave the Nest

Overcoming Loneliness When Your Children Lea...

Adjusting to a new reality can be an especially difficult task.
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Overcoming the Challenges of an Empty Nest

A couple can either move toward the death of their relationship, or look forward to what this new season of marriage has to offer.
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The Midlife Question: Who Am I?

When you define your identity vertically, you will be able to stand even when the things around you are passing away.
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This Old Sack of Bones

The older we grow, the more our bodies deteriorate. And that's not necessarily bad.
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5 Principles for Living With Less … and Li...

Learning to be content with enough.
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Lessons From a Memorial Service

I have been challenged by Kathy Helvey's life and legacy.
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Bringing Back the Sabbath

Many of us have forgotten or never learned how to rest.
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What Are You Worth?

If people can come to grips with the real purpose of money and understand the truth about it from God's perspective, their lives and marriages will benefit greatly.
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Does Your Spouse Annoy You?

Accepting your differences will help you mature beyond the downsides of your personalities.
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Raising Kids in a Spiritually Mismatched Hom...

Regardless of how we arrived in our unequally yoked marriage, we are part of God's plans and our spiritually mismatched homes are vital to His purposes.
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Why Sex Is So Important to Your Wife

God created sex in marriage to be shared, not withheld.
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Does a Good God Want Me in a Bad Marriage?

Does a Good God Want Me in a Bad Marriage?

Even though we seldom can see how God uses trials for our future benefit, He has promised to use them for good, and He is faithful to keep His word.
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No Borders for HomeBuilders

Protecting our marriage as we protect our country.
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Helping Military Marriages

A partnership between FamilyLife and Cru's Military Ministry is affecting families around the world.
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Helping Couples Thrive During Deployment

Through our HomeBuilders study, we want to help military couples who are facing deployment learn to rely on God's power through their separation.
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Coming Home After War

Allowing Christ to reset the course of your life.
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Surviving Tragedy: A Couple’s Story of Hop...

After the fire, Gary and Rachele Lightsey wondered how they could go on.
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3 Truths to Cling to During Suffering

Deep pain brings us to the end of ourselves, but these principles help make sense of life in the aftermath of incredible loss.
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Making Time for Your Spouse

10 Ideas: Making Time for Your Spouse

How to keep your marriage on the front burner of life.
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A Man’s Priorities: How to Decide What...

Putting God, others, rest, and work in their proper places.
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Are You Making the Most of Your “Drive...

These 10 ideas will help you invest your time in your car, instead of waste it.
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Giving thanks for all things

How Should We View Life’s Interruption...

Giving thanks in all circumstances helps us remember that a sovereign God orders our lives.
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It’s Time to Lighten Up!

You’ll never find the time to have fun with your spouse; you have to make time.
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Back from the Edge of Destruction

By the time Doug and Patty Daily faced their most difficult trial, their marriage had come a long way from the days when they prayed one of them would die.
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Can the Bad Economy Save Marriages?

Money is a key factor in marriage breakups, but the economy is also keeping some couples from finalizing divorces.
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Money and budget

Everybody Needs a Budget

Helpful tips for conquering a necessary task.
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Getting out of debt

Getting Out of Debt

You can do it!
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Grace for the Great Recession

Economic winters are not excuses to show fear but opportunities to live by faith.
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Changing Your Financial Direction

Four steps to getting where you want to be.
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Layoff

How to Face a Layoff

"It’s a layoff. Your position has been eliminated." I felt stunned. Betrayed. Embarrassed. Expendable. Insignificant. Angry. Terrified.
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Is It Okay to Divorce a Spouse With Alzheime...

A marriage marked by unshakeable commitment is a beautiful picture of Christ's relationship with the church.
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Suffering

How Firm Is Your Foundation?

You may not understand why God allows you to experience sorrow or hardship, but you can cling to the truth of His Word.
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A Fiery Trial on 9/11

After Brian Birdwell was injured in the attack on the Pentagon, he faced a long road to recovery, with the help of his wife, Mel.
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After a Failed Pregnancy: Our Road to Better...

Emotional and spiritual recovery involved several key spiritual decisions.
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Angels Dressed in Black

How many times has God used catastrophes in our lives to redirect us from a path of self-destruction?
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Coping With Your Husband’s Job Loss

Seven ways a wife can show her support.
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Distance Runners

Whatever circumstance in your life you are facing that requires perseverance, find the will to keep going.
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Feeling His Tears

I realized that by lying in bed, sick and unable to accomplish anything, I was actually achieving what I wanted most.
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A Spiritual Mismatch—and the God Who Sees

Any marriage offers occasions on an everyday basis for us to choose the needs of our spouses over our own.
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A “Miracle” Across the Street

This story is just one example of how God changes hearts through the love of others.
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Complete List of No-No’s for Relating...

The following comments were given by women when they were asked, “What ‘no-no’s’ do you have for a man about relating to his wife?”
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Bringing Out the Best in Your Spouse

God uses marriage to complete and “perfect” a man and wife.
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Loving Your Man Without Losing Your Mind

What I did when my husband wouldn't change his irritating ways.
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Lies Husbands and Wives Tell Each Other

Partial truth is not truth. We have to be diligent to tell the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.
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Demystifying Differences Through Communicati...

These four techniques can give men and women better understanding.
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Things I Miss About Being Married

Confessions of a Young Widow: The Little Thi...

Sometimes the greatest joys of marriage are the little things that most people probably take for granted and don’t realize are blessings.
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Money Management for the Christian Family

If money is causing tension in your family, consider this three-step plan.
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Job: One Man’s Walk Through Tragedy

Four lessons we can learn from the life of Job.
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Praising God in the Midst of Misery

The advice that initially angered me eventually turned my woe to worship.
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Navigating the Interruptions and Busy Season...

Practical suggestions for regarding interruptions as "sovereign deliveries."
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The Value of Money

We must use money in a way that satisfies not just the senses but the soul.
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The Pressures of Life

The heavy pressures in your life are often the things God's using to press you to Him.
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Q&A: What Communicates Love and Romance...

When it comes to romance, the sexes speak a different language.
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Q&A: Stressed, Exhausted, and Not in the...

Has God played a cruel joke by giving many men a strong sex drive?
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Q&A: Making Decisions When You Disagree

Balancing roles and relationship in decision making.
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Q&A: Finding Time for Communication With...

Suggestions for being intentional about connecting with each other.
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Surprised by Miscarriage The Helplessness Hu...

The loss of our first baby taught my husband and me some powerful spiritual lessons.
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Staying Strong in the Midst of Suffering

Suffering has certainly not been a stranger to the Rainey family.
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Starting Over

Diana Green felt like she had a new husband after Floyd suffered a brain injury.
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Grieving with Gratitude

In the week after my wife's death, I struggled with whether I should be grieving my loss or celebrating Muriel's gain.
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American Dream Syndrome

The Grand Illusion

Choosing contentment over the desire to acquire.
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Suffering

The Impossible Response

Facing the trials and sufferings of life.
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The Amazing Story of John and Donna Bishop

How do you explain the concept of marriage to a husband who doesn’t remember you and doesn’t even know what marriage is?
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Taming the Media Monster

In today’s world of media bombardment, your marriage and family can suffer. Consider these tips for getting media intake under control.
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The “Superior Wife Syndrome”

In the end, it's not a big deal if my husband does things differently than I would.
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Q&A: No One Can Do It All

There are only so many things parents can do, so make sure you are choosing the right priorities.
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When Your Spouse Is a Survivor of Sexual Abu...

With your patience and understanding and God's help, it is possible for your spouse to return to normal and healthy sexual and emotional function.
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When Opposites Attract in Marriage

How to deal with the differences that can rob a relationship of its peaceful, accepting love.
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When Life Gets Tough(er)

Caring for Joe’s mother was a challenging addition to the other pressures in our family.
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When Life Doesn’t Seem Fair

Circumstances, events, and problems may not always appear to be "fair," but they come from our loving Father. And He can be trusted.
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We Know That Life Is Short

It’s a strange feeling to spend a day wondering if you’re at the end of your life.
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We Didn’t Take Time for “Us̶...

A Weekend to Remember® was just what our great marriage needed.
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Two Stupid Things Husbands and Wives Do to E...

Have you ever committed one of these acts of “Cupidity”?
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Things I Miss About Being Married

Lessons From Grief: Living Is About Dying

How losing my husband made me focus on the gospel.
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The Pressure Proof Test

Honest answers to these simple questions will help you identify the pressure points in your marriage and family.
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Disappointed in Marriage

Disappointed in Marriage

Seasons of disappointment have the power to empty us or empower us—the deciding factor is our response to our circumstances.
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Q&A: The Need for Friends

What can I say to a husband who doesn't understand my need for good friends?
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Being Successful Where It Counts

Three suggestions on how to prioritize your life.
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How Do Men and Women Differ in How They View...

We believe that sex is a beautiful, God-given desire that can bring a husband and wife together in oneness
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A Woman’s Emotions

We are made in the emotional image of God, so we shouldn't be afraid of those feelings when they crop up.
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Q&A: When Your Husband Loses Interest in...

Three suggestions for coping when his spiritual life seems at a standstill.
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Stayed together, stayed married

Her Husband Wouldn’t Speak to Her—for Th...

Even in the silence, June Sims continued serving her husband as she waited for God to answer her prayers.
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Do You Have a One-Way Marriage?

Many people cannot conceive of enduring hardship as I have. But I have been convinced that God has wanted me to keep the vows I made before Him. Here are five essentials for surviving and thriving when you are the only one trying to build your marriage.
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10 Ideas: Prayers for an Unbelieving Spouse

I knew that I was powerless to change my husband’s heart—only the Lord could do that.
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Man handling loss

Weathering the Storm of Job Loss

When you’re on the other side looking back, how do you want to have handled it?
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How God Uses Suffering for His Glory

Five reasons we must face affliction.
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Suffering

A Year-Long Season of Suffering

Barbara and I learned that without a plan and the inner resources to move through problems, a marriage will flounder.
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How can I keep my family strong in the midst...

Trials, problems, and even calamities are a normal part of life.
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Where Is Your Treasure?

Instead of leaving behind your treasures, send them on ahead.
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Surviving the Economic Storm

Four financial principles that will help your family in this time of economic uncertainty.
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10 Principles for Talking With Your Spouse A...

It’s important for husbands and wives to agree on financial decisions because they both will experience the consequences.
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How Do We Deal With Financial Difficulties?

How you handle your money is one of the greatest tests of your marriage.
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10 Ways to Reduce Stress

In order to have healthy marriages and families, we must obey our God-given desire for peace and rest.
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Learning the Value of Quiet and Rest

I wonder how many of our children would be able to hear God calling their names through all the noise in the background?
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Are You Playing ‘Hide and Seek’...

Defeating isolation in your relationship.
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Before the Flowers Come: Three Steps to Prep...

There are ways in which we can prepare our lives to find comfort even after the death of a spouse.
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Finding Comfort in the Midst of Grief

I had always turned to the Bible when I had problems, but after losing my husband I was hesitant.
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