Session 3: Behavior Modification vs Heart Transformation

Session 3: Behavior Modification vs Heart Transformation

Welcome to Session 3 of this five-part training series on the art of parenting on discipline. Play the video below to continue.


The Bible says that discipline will bring about “the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it” (Hebrews 12:11). In the moment, discipline can be a challenge, but it must be done for the child’s long-term success. However, just as there are positive outcomes, there can be negative ones–if discipline is applied inappropriately.

Major Points:

  • Discipline and character go hand in hand, and love connects the two.
  • Every parent knows that turning children over to indulge their own wills is a setup for heartbreak. Hebrews 12:6 says that “the Lord disciplines the one he loves.” To put this in the parenting context, all children need discipline, and all discipline should be done in love.
  • Of course, “for the moment all discipline seems painful . . . but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness” (v. 11). See your efforts in disciplining your children as more than correcting their behavior in the moment, but rather as a necessary investment in their lifelong character.

Memory Verses:

“All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness.” – Hebrews 12:11

“For those whom the Lord loves He disciplines, and He scourges every son whom He receives.” – Hebrews 12:6