• How do the two of you honor your marriage by making time for one another?
  • What are the biggest obstacles right now in the two of you being close?
  • Is your schedule too full to pursue marital oneness like you want?  What’s one immediate change you could make, even if it's small?
  • The bible describles marriage as a process of two becoming one? In what ways does your marriage reflect that principle?  In what ways does it not?
  • If you and your spouse were to truly "become one," what would need to change?
  • What practical things are you doing to build oneness together?
  • Are there some areas in your life that are just too sensitive for you to share with your spouse right now?  Areas where it's just easier to keep things separate?
  • Do you and your spouse confess sin quickly and forgive one another easily?  Tell me about the last time you did that?
  • Are there any areas that you can think of where confession and forgiveness are needed?
  • In what ways do you honor your spouse’s parents as your own?  Or is that a source of division between you?
  • What is one small step you can take today to move toward oneness with your spouse?
  • How can I be an encouragement to you today?
  • Have you taken time lately to share your true feelings with your spouse?
  • Is there an area of bitterness from the past you’ve been harboring which is causing the isolation?  Would you consider voicing that and giving your spouse another opportunity to seek forgiveness?
  • Are you waiting for your spouse to move toward you or are you willing to move toward him/her?
  • Would you say your marriage is one of openness and honesty, or are there things that are hidden and kept secret?  Can you elaborate?
  • Can you surrender to God’s plan even if it means you will need to take responsibility and confess first?
  • Is your marriage full of speech that is honoring, or is there much criticism?  Could you describe what that looks/feels like?
  • Are you connected to any other couples who can hold you accountable for marital growth?
  • What is one step you can take in the right direction and how can I help you do that?