- Robert Lewis, Rocking the Roles, p. 122
"If, after marriage, a wife fails to share in her husband’s vision or participate in it, or if she becomes apathetic toward his work, or even resentful of it, then that marriage will fall into deep trouble within a surprisingly short time."
- Fred and Brenda Stoeker, Every Heart Restored, p. 221
“Compatibility is not necessary for oneness—sacrifice is—and that’s something every man and wife has to learn.”
- Dan Allender and Tremper Longman, Intimate Allies, p. 217
“Leaving means starting a whole new relationship in which the core loyalty is not to parents’ priorities, traditions, or influence but to an entirely new family that must set its own course, form, and purpose.”
- Robert Lewis, Rocking the Roles, p. 79
"Most men are not necessarily unwilling to meet their wife’s needs; they simply are unaware of what those needs really are."
- Chip Ingram, Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships, p. 142
"God’s plan for you, whether you’re married, single, or about to be married, unless He gives you the gift of singleness, is to be in a warm, loving marriage relationship, characterized by open communication, a lot of hard work, deep commitment, setting boundaries, and doing it God’s way."
- Nancy Leigh DeMoss, Lies Women Believe and the Truth That Sets Them Free, p. 138
"The ultimate purpose of marriage is not to make us happy, but to glorify God. Women who get married for the purpose of finding happiness are setting themselves up for almost certain disappointment; they seldom find what they are looking for."
- Stu Weber, Four Pillars of a Man’s Heart, p. 270
"Marriage is the greatest human development program on the face of the earth. Cultivate it and keep it."
- Robert Lewis, Rocking the Roles, p. 212
"Today, I know a lot of young couples who are frustrated with each other and their marriage because neither partner knows how to correctly relate to the opposite sex. Nobody has ever told them. They are trying to build an intimate relationship, one that’s supposed to last a lifetime, from scratch or, at best, guesswork … These young people don’t realize that behind much of their quarrels and dysfunction and anger is what they don’t know, not who they’re married to."
- Robert Lewis, The New Eve, p. 98
"The deepest language of marriage is spiritual language. Nothing draws a couple closer and keeps them closer than a shared spiritual life … Laying a common spiritual foundation will be the single most important thing you can do for your marriage."
- Gary Thomas, Sacred Marriage, p. 133
"If there’s one thing young engaged couples need to hear, it’s that a good marriage is not something you find, it’s something you work for. It takes struggle. You must crucify your selfishness. You must at times confront, and at other times confess. The practice of forgiveness is essential. This is undeniably hard work! But eventually it pays off. Eventually, it creates a relationship of beauty, trust, and mutual support."
- Gary Thomas, Sacred Marriage, p. 252
"There is no question that marriage limits how much we can do, but it multiplies what we can become. If a man or woman focuses on spiritual growth rather than achievement and accomplishment, they’ll see the marriage relationship as providing a wonderful environment for Christian mission."
- Dennis Rainey, Preparing for Marriage, p. 8
"No other human relationship can approach the potential for intimacy and oneness than can be found within the context of the marriage commitment. And yet no other relationship can bring with it as many adjustments, difficulties, and even hurts."
- Heather Jamison, Reclaiming Intimacy, p. 63
"Many young adults faced with financial pressures don’t realize, as I didn’t at the time, that happiness doesn’t come with what you have but with how you perceive what you have. The ultimate solution to financial stress comes only through placing your trust in God as your provider and source of contentment. In the Bible, Paul had learned to be content with much or little. Young couples in new marriages have the opportunity to grow spiritually by developing the virtue of contentment."
- Dennis and Barbara Rainey, Building Your Marriage to Last, p. 20
“One of the most underestimated influences on your new marriage is your family. When most couples marry today they assume that their marriage is between two people who want to become one … As you will see in the years ahead, your family’s impact on your new family must not be minimized, but rather understood and planned for.”
- Lou Priolo, Pleasing People, p. 45
"An important part of leaving and cleaving has to do with abandoning parental beliefs, lifestyles, values, and traditions that are not clearly delineated in the Scriptures. Unless both husband and wife agree, such extra-Biblical standards should not be automatically carried over from one family to another."
- Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect, p. 125
"When Scripture speaks of ‘cleaving,’ the idea in the Hebrew is to cling, hold, or keep close. Two are joined together face to face, becoming one flesh ... Cleaving, however, is more than sexual. Cleaving also means spiritual and emotional closeness. This is a salient passage for husbands—full of insight. Your wife will feel loved when your move toward her and let her know you want to be close with a look, a touch, or a smile."<
- Dave Harvey, When Sinners Say I Do, p. 15
"If you are married, or soon to be married, you are discovering that your marriage is not a romance novel. Marriage is the union of two people who arrive toting the luggage of life. And that luggage always contains sin."
- Dan Allender and Tremper Longman, Intimate Allies, p. 218
"The failure to shift loyalty from parents to spouse is a central issue in almost all marital conflict."