• What is your understanding of the role of a husband?  How do you think your spouse would answer that?
  • What is your understanding of how that differs from the role of a wife?  How do you think your spouse would answer that?
  • What would you like to change about the way you and your spouse relate as husband and wife?  What is currently keeping you from making those changes?
  • What was your father like as a role model?  In what ways have you as a husband imitated him or differed from him?
  • What do you think the Bible means when it says the husband is to be the “head” of the home?
  • Do you know any men who you consider good role models as husbands?  What qualities do you see in them that you admire?
  • Have you ever thought about asking those male role models any questions about their approach?  What would you ask?
  • Can you tell me a little about your relationship with God and how that influences your life as a man and as a husband?
  • What is your plan for becoming a better husband?  Are you reading any good books right now?
  • How can I best help you right now as a mentor?
  • Are you open to reading helpful resources on manhood and discussing them with me?
  • Does your behavior around your family engender respect or fear?
  • God’s Word teaches that husbands are to be servant/leaders in their homes.  What do you think that means?  Which aspect do you feel you have the hardest time succeeding at—being a servant or being a leader?
  • What do you think keeps you from being a servant/leader?  What have you tried in the past to overcome this barrier?  Why do you think that effort fell short of the goal?
  • How would you summarize what spiritual leadership should look like by a husband?  How do you think you are doing in that area?  What barriers do you find get in your way of being the spiritual leader in your home?
  • Do you have accountability with other godly men?  How do you think having such accountability helps you (or would help you) in your role as husband?
  • How do you think you can be a servant leader in your home even if your wife is not accustomed to you having that role?