What is your understanding of the role of a husband? How do you think your spouse would answer that?
What is your understanding of how that differs from the role of a wife? How do you think your spouse would answer that?
What would you like to change about the way you and your spouse relate as husband and wife? What is currently keeping you from making those changes?
What was your father like as a role model? In what ways have you as a husband imitated him or differed from him?
What do you think the Bible means when it says the husband is to be the “head” of the home?
Do you know any men who you consider good role models as husbands? What qualities do you see in them that you admire?
Have you ever thought about asking those male role models any questions about their approach? What would you ask?
Can you tell me a little about your relationship with God and how that influences your life as a man and as a husband?
What is your plan for becoming a better husband? Are you reading any good books right now?
How can I best help you right now as a mentor?
Are you open to reading helpful resources on manhood and discussing them with me?
Does your behavior around your family engender respect or fear?
God’s Word teaches that husbands are to be servant/leaders in their homes. What do you think that means? Which aspect do you feel you have the hardest time succeeding at—being a servant or being a leader?
What do you think keeps you from being a servant/leader? What have you tried in the past to overcome this barrier? Why do you think that effort fell short of the goal?
How would you summarize what spiritual leadership should look like by a husband? How do you think you are doing in that area? What barriers do you find get in your way of being the spiritual leader in your home?
Do you have accountability with other godly men? How do you think having such accountability helps you (or would help you) in your role as husband?
How do you think you can be a servant leader in your home even if your wife is not accustomed to you having that role?