Why did you marry? What were your expectations going in?
How long have you been considering divorce? Was there anything in particular that got you thinking in that direction?
What do you hope to accomplish through divorce?
What steps have you taken up to now to restore your marriage? What were the results of that, good and bad?
Why do you think God created marriage? Do you still believe He is able to heal your marriage? Are you still open to that?
As you consider divorce as a solution, who outside your marriage is influencing your decision? What are they telling you?
Have you hired an attorney? How far has the process advanced?
Are you involved in another relationship that could be clouding your vision about your marriage?
What is your biggest concern regarding your children if you proceed with separation or divorce?
How would you feel if another person became your child’s stepparent? Why?
I believe that the most important relationship in your life is the one you have with Jesus Christ. Can you tell me about that part of your life and how it’s impacting your decisions?
Have you counted the real costs of divorce—legal, financial, emotional, kids? I’d love to help you think through those issues if you would you be willing to take some time to do that. (listen to Before You Divorce)
What are the major areas of disagreement or conflict in your marriage? What steps have you take to resolve those?
What are the major things you need to ask your spouse forgiveness for? Are you willing to do that?
What actions do you feel that your spouse needs to ask your forgiveness for? Have they shown a willingness to do that?
What do you consider to be the major barriers to reconciliation in your marriage? What needs to happen to begin to tear down those barriers? Are you open to working through those even if it means a significant time commitment?
How are your finances? Is financial stress a contributing factor in your marriage being in trouble? How so?
Are you involved in another relationship? Are you willing to give that up to restore your marriage? Why or why not?
What is one step you can take in the right direction and how can I help you do that?