But perhaps some of What troubles us about forgiveness is that we don’t understand what it is.
By Dennis Rainey
If you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
If you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. Matthew 6:14I am often reminded of what C. S. Lewis said: “Everyone thinks forgiveness is a lovely idea until he has something to forgive.” How true. It’s not until forgiveness becomes personal and costly that it takes on its actual size and weight.
But perhaps some of what troubles us about forgiveness is that we don’t understand what it is … and what it isn’t. Forgiveness doesn’t mean:
It does mean:
The other night when Barbara and I were praying together, I turned to Barbara and said, “Sweetheart, before we pray, there’s something I need to ask forgiveness for.” Then after some dialogue, the words “I forgive you” were spoken by Barbara. That’s when you know your marriage is what it was meant to be—a relationship in which forgiveness can flow at the slightest offense. Forgiveness is one of the most important qualities you must practice if your marriage is to become great.
Talk about the definition of forgiveness … surrendering the right to get even. Is there anything you need to ask forgiveness for?
Pray that God will show you both how to be aggressive in pursuing forgiveness and appropriately quick in granting forgiveness.
Excerpted from Moments with You by Dennis and Barbara Rainey. © 2008 by Dennis Rainey. Used with permission. All rights reserved.