Topics
- What can you tell me about how you’ve gotten to this point in your marriage?
- What steps have been taking so far to reconcile? What have been the results of those efforts?
- Do you have children? Tell me about how they are being affected right now by the state of your marriage?
- What have you learned about yourself from your most common conflicts? Any helpful discoveries? Any difficult ones?
- Do you relate to any of these common habits during conflict?
- What do you believe God wants right now from you?
- As you think about your marriage, what would you say are the biggest mistakes that you’ve personally made?
- Are you willing to reconcile, even if the process takes a while? Is your spouse?
- What is one small step you can take in the right direction and how can I help you right now to get started?
- How can I help and encourage you right now?
- Win by overpowering the other
- Yield in order to keep peace
- Withdraw to avoid the conflict
- Compromise by bargaining
- Resolve through consideration of all sides of the issue
- Are you aware of the effects of unforgiveness? Is there an area of unforgiveness that is blocking reconciliation?
- Have you repented of any wrongdoing, however small, and asked for forgiveness?
- Have you sought the help of a pastor or Christian counselor?
- Do you have children? If so, have you considered how their lives will be impacted if you don’t reconcile the marriage?
- Has one spouse been unfaithful and has the affair ended? What steps have been taken to recover from this affair?
- What is one thing you can do today to move back toward your spouse?
- Do you still believe that God can transform your marriage through the power of His Holy Spirit? (Ephesians 3:20-21)
- Do you pray with your spouse every day? Are you willing to start? Do you pray for your spouse every day?
- I believe that the most important relationship in your life is the one you have with Jesus Christ. Can you tell me about that?