“God uses other people to help us see. As we have undoubtedly witnessed in others or ourselves, we might be blind to our own hearts, but other people can often see our problems very clearly. Other people can sometimes spot our self‐deception and real beliefs better than we can ourselves … This is one reason why it is so critical for each one of us to be accountable to others, and to have people in our lives who are willing to say hard things to us.”