• Tell me about yourself. How did you and your spouse meet? How long have you been together?
  • Is this his/her first deployment? How often have you been separated due to military obligations? How were those separations for you? Your spouse? Your children?
  • How is everyone doing, knowing your spouse will soon be leaving? What about you?
  • What conversations have you had with your children about this upcoming separation?
  • What have you done---you and your spouse---to prepare your family for this change in your lives? Do you have a “game plan,” a plan to cover any unexpected blips or any “what ifs” in your family life?
  • Do you have any special plans for the time when your spouse is deployed?
  • What worries you the most about this deployment?
  • What can you do to relieve your spouse of any anxieties he/she may have over this separation? What can you do for your children to help them not to be as fearful or anxious?
  • How would you describe your current spiritual walk?  In what area(s) does it need strengthened?  How do you plan to make that happen?
  • How often are you attending church?  What kind of regular fellowship are you having with other Christians?
  • What are you doing to provide spiritual input for yourself?  How about spiritual training/input for your children?
  • Who is it that helps you stay accountable?
  • Have you talked to the Lord about your feelings regarding this deployment?  What concerns have you been able to share with your spouse?
  • How often do you pray together with your spouse?  As a family?
  • In what ways have you given control of your deployment over to God?  In what ways are you still fighting for control?
  • How would you describe the health of your marriage?  How would your spouse answer that question?
  • How committed are you to your marriage?  How would your spouse respond to that question?
  • What steps are you taking to ensure that you stay sexually pure during the time you are apart?
  • How do you plan to keep the lines of communication open while your spouse is deployed?
  • How do you plan to stay spiritually connected?
  • After you deploy, what network of friends can help your spouse and children cope with your absence?
  • How can I help you to prepare yourself and your family for this deployment?