• Bea Fishback, Loving Your Military Man, p. 109
    “Moral excellence is God’s desire for each of us.  He wants us to make choices not merely because it will enhance our personal development, or because it will give us greater credibility with others, but because God knows that what we choose to pursue will ultimately affect who we become—women of excellence.”
  • Dennis and Barbara Rainey, Staying Close, p. 222
    “One of the greatest benefits of transparency [being totally open and honest] is that it brings peace of mind.  As husband and wife open up to each other, they take risks—tiny ones at first. Then, if they succeed, they take bigger steps of self-revelation.  And when this happens, what they are really doing is saying to each other, ‘I need you.’”
  • Fishbacks/ Montgomerys, Our Connection, p.1
    “When facing the orders of the military, whether deployment or permanent change of duty, be reminded that God’s world is orderly.  We may not understand how everything works or will work out, but God remains consistently sovereign.  God never changes.  So the next time PCS, TDY or deployment orders are issued, choose to be reminded of God’s supreme authority over all things.”
  • John Milton, On His Blindness
    “They also serve who only stand and wait.”
  • Montgomery/Morgan, Deployment Ready, p.1
    “A military couple can successfully face deployment by working together to avoid the minefields of unintended consequences.”
  • Stephen Arteburn & Fred Stoeker, Every Man’s Battle, p. 167
    “In summary, you have a mind that runs where it wills.  It must be tamed. Our best tactic is to starve the attractions, limiting the generation of impure thoughts and the damage they bring to our marriage relationship.”
  • Well done in seeking advice and guidance as you prepare for this deployment.
  • Read any of the online articles listed in this guide and let’s discuss it together.
  • Memorize one of the scriptures in the hope and help sections of this guide.
  • Read any of the books listed in this guide or choose a section to read and discuss with your spouse or a mentor.
  • Talk to your spouse about the upcoming deployment; share your concerns, fears and worries. Don’t hold anything back, but do this with a loving heart.
  • Work out a plan together of how you will deal with any unexpected family issues.
  • Decide together how you and your spouse will stay spiritually connected.  You may want to choose a book or a book of the Bible to read and discuss via Skype or e-mail.
  • Set goals for communicating with each other.
  • Spend quality time together prior to the deployment to enhance your relationship.
  • Decide what steps you will take to keep yourselves sexually pure during the time apart.
  • Have a family meeting. Discuss with the children the expectations for behavior during the separation and follow this with a fun time together.
  • Listen and watch for signs of distress in the children as the deployment period draws closer.
  • Talk to other people whose spouses will be deploying and plan to spend time together as families.
  • Seek out a more mature Christian to be your accountability partner and begin to meet soon.
  • Begin now to pray for your spouse.  Pray for safety, protection, wisdom, guidance, and physical, emotional and spiritual well-being.
  • Above all, remember you have a God who loves you and who will never leave you!