“While men may need to be reminded of the importance of frequent nonsexual touching, many wives have learned that if a woman is not pursuing her husband sexually, just about every other movement toward her husband may go unnoticed.”

“Your marriage doesn’t have to settle for mediocrity. There is a plan that delivers hope. The God of the universe who created a billion galaxies and flung them into space created romance for you and your wife to enjoy. I’m convinced that God wants your romance to blossom and grow, not shrivel up and become non‐existent; He wants you to experience great sex, satisfying oneness, and a whole new level of intimacy you never dreamed possible.”

"Bitterness is one of the most common causes of neglected sex. From the soil of anger and unresolved conflicts, it grows quickly into a virulent week that chokes out intimacy. Married people turned bitter use their bodies as a weapon, a weapon that harms by withholding. A weapon used to punish the other person for sinning against us. This calls for forgiveness."

“When we wives disobey God and do not make ourselves sexually available to our husbands, we block off their main, natural route for expressing intimacy. Of course, in the wake of his sexual sin or his addiction, it may be necessary to mutually agree to a sexual moratorium to allow the healing process to begin.”

“The most important thing to a man in sex is how his wife enjoys his lovemaking. Real sexual fulfillment for a husband ultimately does not come from the pleasure he receives, but from the pleasure he senses you, his wife, receive from him! … On the other hand, a wife who gives in to her husband’s advances with an ‘I’ll let him have what he wants’ attitude deeply frustrates him. He will pick up on it easily, and it will stir up more insecurity than pleasure. He’ll come away feeling empty and having questions about himself.”

“Honestly ask yourself these questions: Is sex something I’m giving to my spouse, or withholding? Is sex something I am demanding, or offering? Is sex something I am using as a tool of manipulation, or as an expression of generous love? If God looked at nothing other than my sexuality, would I be known as a mature Christian or as a near pagan?”

“While it can be difficult to start, couples who have worked at openly talking about their fears and expectations around sex find not only a richer love life, but a deeper, more trusting marriage.”

“Marriages that are sexually satisfying in private carry into the public sphere a certain sparkle, an open demonstration of joy and unity that helps point people to the Creator of marriage."”

“Your husband’s anatomy and design is much different from yours. He needs sexual release as you need emotional release. This is why he loves the act of sex in and of itself. It is a pleasurable act that brings him satisfaction. As a woman, you may feel that the two of you have to feel and be close in order to share sexually. For him, however, it is the reverse: the sexual act is what brings the two of you close!”

“The relationship of marriage provides the only God‐designed setting in which a man and a woman can express deep gratitude to their Creator as they share his gift of sexuality with each other for life … A view of love that has no place for God will produce neither love nor gratitude to God for His generosity.”

“Hormone levels greatly influence sexual desire. A man is like a river. His testosterone levels flow constant and steady. A woman is like an ocean. Her hormones ebb and flow, depending on where she is in her menstrual cycle. In the early part of her cycle when estrogen levels are high, desire for sex can wash over her with the force of a typhoon. Several days later, after ovulation, she may want nothing to do with sex.”

“When you consider the fact that the sexual relationship is the most complex element of marriage, and no one ever talks about it, it’s no wonder many couples are struggling … Many couples think that if they have to discuss this delicate issue, they’re failures. This isn’t true.”

“The well‐being of a married man’s psyche is tied inextricably to the quality of his sex life. If he feels good about his sex life, that sense of satisfaction spills over into every other part of his experience. And conversely, if his sex life is floundering, then in his mind, other disasters cannot be too far behind.”

“Few things affirm a man in his masculinity as does his wife’s sexual responsiveness. Spontaneous hugs, kisses, and other demonstrations of affection, as well as intercourse, do more than make a man feel good. These actions meet a much deeper need. They reassure a man. They confirm him in his masculinity!”

“Sex is a thermometer that measures the depth of the relationship … For sex to be truly satisfying to both partners, each has to risk being totally open and vulnerable to the other.”