Lock Out
As a kid, I played a game called Lock Out. We would form a circle with linked arms and someone on the outside would try to get into the circle. The more the outsider pushed, the more the circle banded together. Sometimes stepfamilies play this game, too. An outsider stepparent or stepsibling is trying to break into the circle of insiders and find acceptance. The secret to getting inside is to not push. Instead, talk, interact, and get to know them. Eventually they will relax and let you in.
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As a kid, I played a game called Lock Out. We would form a circle with linked arms and someone on the outside would try to get into the circle. The more the outsider pushed, the more the circle banded together. Sometimes stepfamilies play this game, too. An outsider stepparent or stepsibling is trying to break into the circle of insiders and find acceptance. The secret to getting inside is to not push. Instead, talk, interact, and get to know them. Eventually they will relax and let you in.
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Ron Deal
Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and ...more
Is your family playing the game of Lock Out?
Ron: Is your family playing the game of Lock Out?
Announcer: For FamilyLife Blended®, here’s Ron Deal.
Ron: When I was a kid, we played a simple game I call Lock Out. A group of us would circle up and link arms and someone on the outside would try to break into the circle. The more the outsider pushed, the more the circle banded together to keep them out. Sometimes stepfamilies play this game, too. An outsider stepparent or stepsibling is trying to break into the circle of insiders and find acceptance.
Now, the secret to getting inside is to not push; they just close ranks if you do. Instead, walk up next to them and just stand there. Talk, interact, and get to know them. Eventually the insiders will relax and let you in. For FamilyLife Blended I’m Ron Deal.
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