FamilyLife Blended® Minute

The Blessing Is Our Job

with Ron Deal | June 13, 2024
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We love our kids. But we don't always like them.

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  • Ron Deal

    Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and Preparing to Blend. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, popular conference speaker, and host of the FamilyLife Blended podcast. He and his wife, Nan, have three sons and live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Learn more at

We love our kids. But we don’t always like them.

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The Blessing Is Our Job

With Ron Deal
June 13, 2024
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Ron: We love our kids. But we don’t always like them.

Announcer: For FamilyLife Blended®, here’s Ron Deal.

Ron: Yeah, I’m just being frank and honest here. We don’t always like our kids—or their behavior. In his book, The Blessing, Dr. John Trent says that it’s our job to be a blessing to others. Well, how do you give a blessing when you’re afraid it will condone a child’s misbehavior?

Consider the alternative: not sharing how much you value your child is never going to encourage them to make different choices. They have to know they are loved and valued even when you set a boundary or disapprove of their behavior. Especially when you disapprove of their behavior! Love and boundaries are best served together.

For FamilyLife Blended I’m Ron Deal.

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