You Can’t Have It Both Ways

Have you ever received a double message? Like when a friend tells you it's okay that you didn't call them, but then is mad that you didn't call them. One trap in stepfamily parenting is when the biological parent clearly wants the stepparent to be a part of the parenting process, but then undercuts their authority and decisions. This is confusing and defeating to the stepparent. Either they are part of the team or they are not a part of your life. I suggest you make them part of the team.