activity / idea
Consider seeking pastoral care or a counselor for any areas in which you and your spouse have struggled to heal.

suggested time range
Weekly/every other week until healing on your own

goal
To make a priority of healing before wounds fester and become larger, handicapping issues.

activity / idea
Does your marriage need a breath of fresh air? Have fun planning a staycation or weekend away. Have a friend or relative watch the kids (childcare swapping works, too).

Be intentional: Set your phones aside. Plan activities where you’ll interact and create positive memories.

suggested time range
Quarterly

goal
Rejuvenate together.

activity / idea
What is the one thing that has a negative impact on intimacy with your spouse that you continue to overlook or underestimate?

Prayerfully ask God to expose how you are separating what He has put together. Ask Him what He would like you to actively do, and request His continued help.

suggested time range
Lifetime

goal
To take 100% responsibility for ways you fail to love or honor your spouse, trust God, etc.

As you cool down, it’s time to reflect.

Read Song of Solomon 2:10, 16:
“My beloved speaks and says to me:
‘Arise, my love, my beautiful one,
and come away…’

My beloved is mine, and I am his;
he grazes among the lilies.”

Pray together, remember to stretch yourself this week for the sake of your spouse, and stay flexible with your growth:

Father, refresh our relationship–not just with romance that comes and goes, but with You–the Living Water. Be the source of our life as a couple. Help us make Your priorities ours. Show us how to invest wisely and generously in all the things we can’t see.