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Remember the word you selected at the beginning of this session to describe the way you handle conflict? Which of these selections most aligns with the word you chose?

Win: prove I’m right and win the argument
Yield: give in to preserve harmony
Withdraw: avoid conflict by leaving or shutting down
Resolve: work together to find a solution

Ephesians 4:15 describes “speaking the truth in love.” Which part is more difficult for you?

speaking the truth

in love

Talk with your spouse about why you lean toward this.

Which patterns of dealing with conflict were present in your home of origin?

Needing to win
Arguing articulately
Arguing passionately
Stonewalling (silent; impassive)
Storming out of the room
Passivity
Agreeing to keep the (often fake) peace
Withdrawing
Sarcastic
Cutting
Loud
Relentless
Avoiding
Cannot overlook an offense
Must have the last word
Yelling
Physical elements to fighting (throwing things, hitting)
Backbiting
Passive-aggression (staying calm, but manipulating with words or actions)
Bringing in others for backup who weren’t involved

What insights, if any, do you gather from this list about your own patterns in resolving conflict?

	Her	Him
1. I feel comfortable with our current giving percentage. (Explain why or why not to your spouse.)	yesno	{ [yes] [no] }

2. I’m reluctant to give because…
– I’m concerned about providing for our family.	{[yes][no]}	{[yes][no]}
– I fear losing income.	{[yes][no]}	{[yes][no]}
– I fear losing out on the impact of investing for the future.	{[yes][no]}	{[yes][no]}
– I fear losing financial security.	{[yes][no]}	{[yes][no]}
– I am uncertain about our financial future.	{[yes][no]}	{[yes][no]}
– We disagree about how much to give.	{[yes][no]}	{[yes][no]}
– I have other priorities I want to spend that money on.	{[yes][no]}	{[yes][no]}
– I don’t really know where to give.	{[yes][no]}	{[yes][no]}

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