How has anger impacted your relationship in the past?
What do the angry outbursts look like and how do you respond? Do you respond back with more anger or do you tend to "stuff" it?
How do you deal with anger personally? Do you explode or are you more subtle?
What kinds of things trigger anger in your home?
Are others around you aware of this anger or is it something that comes out only in private?
Is there a time of day or a particular place you notice the anger occurring? What kind of patterns do you see?
I believe that the most important relationship in your life is the one you have with Jesus Christ. Can you tell me about that?
Does your spouse have a relationship with Christ?
Are you aware of how God’s word speaks to issues of anger and conflict? Would you like to take a look at that together?
Are you and/or your spouse active in a local church?
Do you and your spouse ever pray together? Do the two of you know how to confess, repent, and forgive one another?
What is one step you can take in the right direction and how can I help you do that?
In what ways do you find yourself adapting to avoid your spouse’s anger (e.g. apologizing for things not your fault, withholding your opinion out of fear)?
When you try to express your true feelings or opinions, is that a safe thing to do or does your spouse's anger stifle such communication?
Are you willing to learn to surrender to God in times of frustration and anger? Can we discuss that and begin praying in that direction?
I believe true peace in your soul is a result of a redeemed relationship with Jesus Christ. Would you like to discuss that with me?
What unresolved issues might be between you that are making matters worse?
The Bible says that angry fighting is often the result of selfish desires (James 4:1-3). How have you found that to be true in your marriage?
Are you keeping a record of wrongs suffered? (1 Corinthians 13:5)
Do you ever feel the need to seek physical safety for yourself or your children because of outbusts of anger? Tell me about those times.
Have you sought the help of a wise pastor or Christian counselor?
