• In what ways do you find yourself adapting to avoid your spouse’s anger (e.g. apologizing for things not your fault, withholding your opinion out of fear)?
    • When you try to express your true feelings or opinions, is that a safe thing to do or does your spouse’s anger stifle such communication?
    • Are you willing to learn to surrender to God in times of frustration and anger?  Can we discuss that and begin praying in that direction?
    • I believe true peace in your soul is a result of a redeemed relationship with Jesus Christ.  Would you like to discuss that with me?
    • What unresolved issues might be between you that are making matters worse?
    • The Bible says that angry fighting is often the result of selfish desires (James 4:1-3).  How have you found that to be true in your marriage?
    • Are you keeping a record of wrongs suffered? (1 Corinthians 13:5)
    • Do you ever feel the need to seek physical safety for yourself or your children because of outbusts of anger?  Tell me about those times.
    • Have you sought the help of a wise pastor or Christian counselor?