What does unclear communication with your spouse look like? Sound like? Feel like?
Have you shared your true feelings with your spouse lately? How did it go?
What would your spouse say you’re communicating non‐verbally?
How do you respond when your spouse is critical, demanding, or harsh toward you?
Have you ever read any books or materials on communication? What insights have you gained?
What things get in the way of clear communication with your spouse?
How does your regular schedule affect communication? Are there practical habits that make communication difficult—things like watching television, eating dinner separately, etc.?
Knowing that men and women often differ in their communication styles, are you making the effort to discover your spouse’s preferred style?
Do you sometimes expect your spouse to read your mind or think that if they were paying attention they should know what you want without you saying it?
Who makes the first effort to recover a broken conversation, you or your spouse?
Do your words or tone invite your spouse to be open and honest or do they sound demanding and controlling?
Do your conversations have a “stand together” feel or a “me against you” posture?
Do your words reflect a desire to serve or a demand to be served?
How often do communication problems lead to conflict in your marriage?
Have you given up on sharing your true feelings with your spouse?
When is the best time and place to start conversations with your spouse? Have you taken that approach lately?
When is the worst time and place to start conversations with your spouse? have you taken that approach lately?
Are you personally continuing to learn about good communication? Do you lead in confessing and repenting of bad habits?
What repeated patterns have you noticed in your communication? What wisdom have you gleaned from that knowledge?
What is one step you can take in the right direction and how can I help you do that?
