Do you have someone you can really be open with? Someone you can share your hopes, dreams, and struggles with?
Who in your life has permission to ask you the tough questions?
Do you see the wisdom of having close, same‐sex friends who can hold you accountable? Do you have friends like that? What’s one step you can take to start building those kinds of safeguards?
Do you keep short accounts with your spouse by confessing freely when you are wrong and forgiving quickly when you are wronged?
Do you attend a local church? How involved are you there?
Can you tell me about a time in your life when you experienced significant spiritual growth? What was happening then?
What would you say are the biggest obstacles to your spiritual growth during this season of your life? Who in your life can you turn to for help in those areas?
Is there anyone in your life who you know is praying for you?
How can I be an encouragement to you and help you move in the right direction?
Who in your life knows you well enough and has permission to ask you tough questions about your integrity?
Do you have godly friends or just those who condone your lifestyle?
Do you have a mentor or a minister in your personal life who knows you well?
Do you understand how Satan preys on people who are isolated and weak? (1 Peter 5:8)
Do you admonish others to godliness? Are you willing and able to be admonished? (Proverbs 27:17)
Are you taking temptation lightly or forgetting that every Christian is engaged in a spiritual battle? (Ephesians 6:11‐13)
What has prevented you from developing close relationships with same‐sex friends who can hold you accountable?
Are you afraid to build close friendships because it feels too vulnerable or you might be judged?
Have you been hurt in the past by people you trusted? Are you open to God’s healing hand in that part of your life and heart? Can I pray for that?
What is one step you can take in the right direction and how can I help you do that?
