All Articles for Stepparents

Battle of the Moms in a Blended Family

Battle of the Moms in a Blended Family

Advice on seeing both the stepmom’s and biological mom’s perspectives.
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Guidelines for Discussing Finances With an Ex-spouse

Guidelines for Discussing Finances With an E...

These practical strategies will give you tools for a peaceful and effective interchange.
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relationship with stepkids

What Would Joseph Do?

There is endless capacity for a loving relationship between a stepdad and his stepchildren.
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Identity crisis

The Search: Who Am I Now?

From widow and single mother to second wife and stepmom, my soul suffered an identity crisis.
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Blended family life

Survival Tips for the First Year of Stepfami...

Ten ideas that helped (or would have helped) my family during our first blended year.
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Knowing God

A Healthy Stepfamily Needs ‘God-Esteem...

Jesus told us to love our neighbors as ourselves, but that requires first knowing who we are in Christ.
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Go on a road trip

Creating Closer Relationships in Stepfamilie...

Strengthen bonds between kids and stepparents by going on a trip that doesn’t fit into the status quo.
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Co-Parenting

Co-Parenting Doesn’t Have to Be Ugly

When the world is telling you to blame your ex-spouse and embrace bitterness, you can work on turning your thoughts toward a peaceful working relationship.
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Holidays

A Time to Grieve During Stepfamily Holidays

Three helpful hints I use to navigate the holidays in my blended family.
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Adult child of divorce

Navigating the Holidays as an Adult Child of...

At Christmas, decisions for an adult child of divorce become especially difficult, with both parents vying for your loyalty and attention.
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Blended family

Grafting: A Painful but Beautiful Process fo...

Your blended family may have another river to cross and a few more battles to face, but don’t give up—significant rewards lie ahead.
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Stepparenting

Stepparenting and the Law

Even though the legal rights of a stepparent over his or her stepchildren is limited, love is not limited.
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Outsiders in blended families

Extending Love and Grace to Outsiders in Ble...

God showed His love for us by bringing the outsider in, and that’s how Christians should love the “extended” members of stepfamilies.
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Divorced parents

Divorced Parents Can Co-Parent Peacefully

Divorced parents should constantly evaluate themselves and ask if their behavior is helping or hurting their children.
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Stepparenting

Parents Between a Rock and a Hard Place

Biological parents who find themselves caught between their spouse and their child should step out of the conflict as often as possible.
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Relationship with stepchildren

How to Cook a Stepfamily

I like to use cooking as an analogy to identify some integration styles that stepfamilies attempt to utilize.
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Stepparenting teenagers

Stepparenting Teenagers

Adolescence is a natural time of turmoil in nearly every family.
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Dealing with ex-spouse

Dealing With a Destructive Ex-Spouse

One of the most menacing dynamics attacking the health of a stepfamily is a destructive parent in the other home.
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Blended family

Setting Boundaries for a Meddling Ex-Spouse

When you have a new marriage and blended family, it's important to build a respectful working relationship with your ex.
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Holidays

Resurrected Pain

Be prepared to face loss as you celebrate the holidays.
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Having an ours baby

Having an ‘Ours’ Baby

If you are planning to have an ours baby, here are some suggestions to consider for preparation.
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Stepmom

Do You Feel Like an Outsider With Your Stepc...

Practical suggestions for stepmoms.
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Resolving conflict

Honest Communication Is a Stepfamily’s Gre...

Every time David successfully put off another conflict, he stored up resentment toward his wife or stepchildren for “controlling him.”
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Blended families

Stepfamilies: Is This Normal?

Blended families live in a different land than first-families.
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Talking about divorce

7 Suggestions for a Parent Going Through Div...

She did her best to turn our four sons and small community against me.
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God in control

Life Lessons of a Control Freak

The world I thought I had perfect control over had turned upside down. But that's when God started teaching me how to walk by faith.
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Stepfamilies

Stepfamilies Are Different … and the Same

Many couples think that their blended family will flow and function like a biological family, only with different people involved.
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Blended family

When a Stepparent Feels Like an Outsider

When one of the two partners feels like an outsider, it doesn't just affect the family dynamics.
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Stepmom

Stepmom: The Place Between Rock and Hard

Stepfamilies are hard no matter what your circumstances were before remarriage. Here are seven practical steps for healthy relationships.
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Special needs blended family

Autism and the Blended Family

Your special needs stepfamily can find peace and stability with time and the right tools and perspective.
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Family meeting

Family Identity, Family Meeting

For stepfamilies, family meetings can build much needed family traditions, create memories, and establish a working family identity.
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Tips for stepfamilies

10 Survival Tips for Stepfamily Life

Many couples travel to the “foreign country” of stepfamily living with little or no preparation.
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Dealing with anger

Misplaced Frustration

We’ve all done it: We’ve all unjustly taken our anger against one person out on another. The question is, what do we do about it?
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Blended family

Talking Blended

The terms used to define and describe the blended family experience vary from person to person.
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Stepparenting adult stepchildren

Second-Half Stepfamilies

Helping adult stepchildren transition into a stepfamily
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Stepfamily relationships

Choosing Love

I’m convinced that God uses the stepfamily experience to teach His children about choosing love.
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Stepfamily relationships

Is It Graduation Time?

When is it time for stepfamilies and stepparents to graduate to the next stage of life? When is it time for them to stop viewing their relationships as new?
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Honoring mom on Mother's Day

Stepmother’s Day

Everyone agreed that stepparents should be acknowledged, but doing so was often awkward for the entire family.
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Stepparenting

Q&A: Who’s More Important— the C...

Developing a good relationship with a spouse and a stepchild
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Favoritism

Playing Favorites Can Wreak Havoc in a Stepf...

Stepfamilies are especially vulnerable to parental favoritism
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Fathers

Stepfather, What Do Your Kids Need?

You cannot afford to be a vanishing father to your biological children.
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For mom on Mother's Day

Stepmom to Stepmom

Sharing experiences of Mother’s Day.
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Dreading that Six-Week Summer Visitation

It's common for stepfamily kids to spend weeks at a nonresidential parent’s home during the summer. Here are some tips for managing the challenges.
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Remarriage affecting adult children

Becoming Friends and Family

Issues for second-half stepfamilies to consider.
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Role as stepparent

The Communication Difference

Making assumptions about your spouse’s thoughts, feelings, and motives is a risky endeavor.
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Stepfamily reality

A Matter of Perspective

The difference between premarried hope and stepfamily reality
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Divorced parents

13 Tips for Divorced Parents

When you and your ex-spouse fight, it's your children who suffer.
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Parenting

Telling Secrets in the Other Home

How do you deal with a child who is sharing private information with an ex?
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Parenting

Part-time Parenting

After a divorce, part-time parenting is challenging. Take the risk of acting like a parent and perhaps your children will respect you as one.
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Blended family in church

When Your Children’s Other Home Is Lea...

Children who have one parent not living a Christian life will need "spiritual inoculations" to help deal with an environment that's hostile to their faith.
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Holidays

Holiday Power Plays

How stepfamilies can curb conflict and tension during the Christmas season.
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Stepparenting

How to Build a Relationship With Your Stepch...

With healthy expectations and a specific strategy to build a relationship, a satisfying bond can be nurtured.
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Stepparenting

Q&A: Parenting Difficult Stepchildren

Children in blended families are going to feel like they don't belong, and they often take it out on the stepparent. But there is hope.
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Help children after divorce

9 Ways to Help Children Adjust to Two Homes

If they work together, divorced parents can help their children adjust to differences between homes.
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Holiday stress for stepfamilies

13 Ideas to Manage Holiday Step-Stress

The normal stress of the holidays is multiplied for stepfamilies.
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Loyalty

The Loyalty Tug of War

Stepchildren often feel caught between their biological parents.
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Parenting, stepparenting

When the Children Feel Alienated

What to do when remarriage destabilizes a child’s world.
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Stepparents, stepparenting

The Dance of Want

The difficulty of seeking the respect and acceptance of a stepchild.
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Stepparenting

The Blame Game

The first two years of stepparent-stepchild relationships tend to be tense and stressful for everyone.
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Stepparenting

The Attachment Difference

Stepparents must develop a secure bond with their stepchildren.
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Stepparenting

Stepparenting Discipline Dos and Don’t...

A delicate balancing act for blended families.
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Stepparents

Encouragement for the Long Journey

Remember Hebrews 12:2 as you look forward to a future payoff for your parenting efforts.
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Stepparenting

The Overprotective Parent

Problems arise when a biological parent continually tries to guide, guard, and direct the stepparent’s every step.
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Parenting

Helping Stepchildren Cope with Dual Citizens...

Divorced parents who fight with each other are trampling on their most prized possession—their children who have to live in both homes
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Relationship with stepchildren

Bridge Building: Strengthening Relationships...

Finding an effective stepparent role is a challenge.
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Relationship with stepchildren

6 Tips for Building Relationships with Your...

Improving your relationship is a challenge, so be intentional.
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Jealousy

Overcoming the Jealousy Monster

Sarah and Michelle alike found themselves jealous of their stepchildren.
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Parenting

Where’s Mom?

It hurts to watch a child suffer rejection from an uninvolved parent. Or from an inconsistent parent who promises time together and repeatedly breaks the promise.
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Dealing with an ex-spouse

The Perplexes of the Exes

Learning to put away childishness when dealing with a previous spouse.
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Stepchildren

How to Develop Healthy Relationships with St...

Though stepfamilies may look like traditional nuclear families on the outside, the dynamics on the inside are very different.
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Stepfamily adults going to church

Stepping Up in a Stepfamily

The spiritual struggle of many Christian stepfamily adults.
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Stepdad and kids

11 Ways for a Stepdad to Engage With His Fam...

Suggestions from experienced stepfathers on conquering Stepdad Mountain.
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