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Why Sex Is So Important to Your Husband

My husband, Dennis, and I received an email about the romantic differences between men and women. It began by asking, “How do you romance a woman?” Answer: “Wine her, dine…

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Why Sex Is So Important to Your Wife

Let me make something clear up front. You might be tempted to think that there would never be a time when you, as a man, would turn down the sexual…

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Embracing Your Differences in Marriage

Editor’s Note: As her daughters began their married lives, Barbara Rainey wanted to share some of the lessons she learned throughout her own marriage as well as those gleaned from…

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When Opposites Attract in Marriage

According to legend, Emperor Huang Ti of China is reported to have said to his wife, Xi Ling Shi, “I have a problem. I notice that our mulberry trees are…

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The “Superior Wife Syndrome”

On a recent Monday morning, I had turned on the Today Show to catch our local news and weather on the half hour. As I listened from the kitchen, I…

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Q&A: Making Decisions When You Disagree

In your articles and on radio, you talk about male leadership in the home. But it’s also clear that, when you and Barbara are making a decision, you have a…

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A Backdoor to Happiness in Marriage

Famed Russian-born ballet choreographer George Balanchine once said, “Ballet is woman.” The best male dancers recognize that their role is all about showcasing the female dancer’s beauty, particularly during pas…

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Does Your Spouse Annoy You?

One week before I got married, I bought a “muscle car.” My brother Tom and I spent a day and a half up in Pennsylvania rebuilding the engine. A few…

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Do We Have to Talk About Submission?

Every few months, marriage is all the rage in the media. The morning talk shows bring in trusted “experts” for a discussion on what makes a marriage work. Sometimes the…

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A Woman’s Emotions

Early in our marriage, my husband, Dennis, and I were completely caught off guard by the emotions I began feeling. I remember the first time I was angry with Dennis….

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Two Stupid Things Husbands and Wives Do to Each Other

Cupidity: where love and stupid meet. Stupid love—ever experienced it? Ever wished you hadn’t? We believe that stupid is as stupid loves. Think stupid thoughts, and end up with a stupid mind. Do stupid things,…

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Bringing Out the Best in Your Spouse

I will never forget what transpired between a former associate pastor and his wife. Sister Davis would approach Brother Davis at the end of Sunday service with her hands on…

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Complete List of No-No’s for Relating to Your Wife

The following comments were given by women when they were asked, “What ‘no-no’s’ do you have for a man about relating to his wife?” You might also enjoy reading the…

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Demystifying Differences Through Communication

After twenty-seven years of marriage, I’ve discovered some of the secret passageways between women’s words and men’s ears. The following four communication techniques have helped my husband and I understand…

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How Do Men and Women Differ in How They View Sex?

We believe that sex is a beautiful, God-given desire that can bring a husband and wife together in oneness. We also believe sex is a thermometer that measures the depth…

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Lies Husbands and Wives Tell Each Other

Tim and Sheila Riter Editor’s Note: This article presents the lies that husbands tell wives. For the article that presents lies that wives tell husbands, read “Why Can’t Women Just…

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Loving Your Man Without Losing Your Mind

by Susie Davis My family was all packed up, ready to head to Telluride, Colorado, for a fabulous ski vacation. The car was loaded with both luggage and kids, and…

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Q&A: Stressed, Exhausted, and Not in the Mood

My husband and I continue to have problems in one main area of our marriage. You guessed it: sex. We have three preschoolers, and I am mentally and physically exhausted…

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Q&A: The Need for Friends

I have a number of friends who encourage me in my walk with Christ, but my husband does not. He doesn’t even seem to see this as a need in…

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Q&A: What Communicates Love and Romance to You

I’ve been married eight years now, and sometimes I feel I still don’t understand my wife, especially in the area of romance. What can I do? Barbara: In our marriage,…

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