Becoming a Bonus Parent
At our Summit on Stepfamily Ministry, author and stepdad, Steve Arterburn shared ideas on becoming a bonus parent. He said, "If you're still dating, don't hang around the kids a lot unless you know the relationship with their parent is going somewhere. Once you become their stepparent, act like a benevolent uncle or aunt. Create fun experiences for the family and remember to love their parent in obvious ways. Initially kids are more invested in their parent's well-being, not necessarily in you".
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At our Summit on Stepfamily Ministry, author and stepdad, Steve Arterburn shared ideas on becoming a bonus parent. He said, "If you're still dating, don't hang around the kids a lot unless you know the relationship with their parent is going somewhere. Once you become their stepparent, act like a benevolent uncle or aunt. Create fun experiences for the family and remember to love their parent in obvious ways. Initially kids are more invested in their parent's well-being, not necessarily in you".
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Ron Deal
Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and ...more
Stepparents, have a bonus parent mentality.
Ron: Stepparents, have a bonus parent mentality.
Announcer: For FamilyLife Blended®, here’s Ron Deal.
Ron: At our Summit on Stepfamily Ministry, author and stepdad, Steve Arterburn shared some great ideas on becoming a bonus parent. “If you’re still dating,” he said, “Don’t hang around the kids too much unless you know the relationship with their parent is going somewhere. Once you become their stepparent, act like a benevolent uncle or aunt. Try to be positive and encouraging and create fun experiences for the whole family to enjoy.”
And remember to love their parent in clear and obvious ways. Initially kids are more invested in their parent’s well-being, not necessarily in you. It’s not a guarantee, but loving their parent makes it more likely they will love you. For FamilyLife Blended I’m Ron Deal.
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