Patiently Move Toward Your Kids

A larger percentage of older couples are taking another run at love and realizing that stepfamily living across the generations is not easy. A newly married man, 84 years old, widowed nine years, approached me at a seminar. He was worried about his adult daughters. "They didn't come to the wedding," he said, "and they won't accept my marriage. What do I do?" Patiently move toward them by yourself initially. They are invested in you, not the new marriage. Your wife will have to be patient, too.