Doubting Your Faith? You’re Allowed to Ask That: Brant Hansen
Got questions about Christianity you’re almost afraid to say out loud? Doubting your faith can feel especially lonely when everyone at church seems so stinkin’ certain. Brant Hansen, author of Blessed Are the Misfits, joins Dave and Ann Wilson for an unpolished conversation about skepticism, introverts, uncomfortable questions, and belonging when you don’t fit the Christian mold. Because stuffing your doubts isn’t exactly making them disappear.
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About the Guest
Brant Hansen
Brant Hansen uses his media platforms to advocate for the healing work of CURE, a global network of surgical hospitals for children with disabilities in developing nations. He’s a syndicated radio host and the author of Unoffendable, Blessed Are the Misfits, and The Truth about Us. In addition to speaking on the subject of The Men We Need, he frequently speaks at churches, conferences, and corporations on the topics of forgiveness, faith and the autism spectrum, and the kingdom of God.
About the Host
Dave and Ann Wilson
Dave and Ann Wilson are hosts of FamilyLife Today®.. Dave and Ann have been married for more than 38 years and have spent the last 33 teaching and mentoring couples and parents across the country. They have been featured speakers at FamilyLife’s Weekend to Remember® marriage getaway since 1993 and have also hosted their own marriage conferences across the country.
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Doubting Your Faith? You’re Allowed to Ask That
Guest:Brant Hansen
From the series:Why Don’t I Feel Close to God? For Christians Who Just Don’t Feel It (Day 3 of 3)
Air date:September 9, 2026
Brant (00:03):
And so I’m walking, and I’m talking with God, and then my mind drifts. Instead of beating myself up for it, you know what I do? Take that thing that your mind just drifted to; that must be something important to you. Start praying about that. Prayer is just you and God talking together about what you’re doing in life together.
Ann (00:28):
Welcome to FamilyLife Today, where we want to help you pursue the relationships that matter most. I’m Ann Wilson.
Dave (00:34):
And I’m Dave Wilson and you can find us at FamilyLifeToday.com. This is FamilyLife Today.
So I don’t even remember who said this to me in the last couple of weeks, but they said, “I was watching you play bass the other night in the worship time at church, and I could tell you weren’t into it as much as everybody else in the room was.” And I was like, “What? Did I show that?” And I remember the night. It was like everybody’s arms were up. There were a couple people on their knees, singing. It was beautiful. It really was. It was emotionally powerful.
Ann (01:15):
Very.
Dave (01:16):
I was resonating with the lyric of Truth. I wasn’t feeling what a lot of the emotions and expressions were in the room. And so this person called me out, not in a bad way, but they just said it was noticeable. And then I was like, “Oh, I got to fake it.”
Ann (01:31):
Which is interesting, because one of our sons was at a Christian school, and they had a chapel, and they were doing worship—
Dave (01:38):
He was what, 12?
Ann (01:40):
—12, very analytical. And a teacher came up to him and said, “Hey, you need to sing.” And he said, “I’m listening. I’m listening.” And she said, “No, you’re going to sing, and you’re going to fake it, or you’ll be out of here.” Those are the kind of things like, oh, I’m sure he felt like a misfit.
Dave (01:56):
Yeah. And so we’re going to talk about that today with Brant Hansen, back again, the author of Blessed Are the Misfits. Brant, when you hear those kinds of stories, what do you think?
Brant (02:08):
Oh, it hurts. I mean, I relate to it. It hurts because at least half the people listening are like this.
Ann (02:14):
You think it’s half?
Brant (02:14):
I think so. I think a lot of people have these emotions during church, but church is kind of set up for that in a lot of ways. Not all traditions, but in certain traditions, it’s set up to produce emotion. And there’s a lot of people that don’t go in those places because they don’t understand what’s going on. It doesn’t compute.
Ann (02:34):
Doesn’t make sense. Yeah.
Brant (02:36):
Right. If you can imagine going to Branson, Missouri, where they have all these theaters set up along the road and people are like, “Oh, I like this show. I like that.” Not everybody’s going to Branson. They don’t want a stage show. They’re thinking about other stuff. They relate to God differently. It hurts because I know the Kingdom welcomes people like me who are more analytical and robotic, and I relate to your son. I say “robotic.” I don’t even mean it in a bad way, just different.
Ann (03:02):
God made us all different.
Brant (03:03):
Yeah.
Ann (03:04):
Yeah. And we can celebrate that. That’s why I like the subtitle of your book: Great News for Believers who are Introverts, Spiritual Strugglers, or Just Feel Like They’re Missing Something.
Brant (03:14):
I heard somebody say, “Prayer is the thing we talk about the most and do the least.” And I think that gets at something, because we all presume everybody else is praying all the time because everybody talks about it. But the reality is, once you start talking, it’s a real struggle.
Ann (03:29):
Do you think most people think it’s a struggle?
Brant (03:30):
I think so.
Dave (03:31):
One of the things you wrote in your book, Brant, about prayer where you said, “They asked Jesus to teach them to pray, and He prayed for 25 seconds.”
Brant (03:38):
Yes. It’s such good news to me. Think about this. Growing up, some church prayers—on and on. I’m thinking about the Cardinals game that afternoon and I’m thinking about where we’re going to eat, and I’m thinking about the girl over there. And “What’s the matter with me?” But they’re still going on and on and on. And I love that when Jesus is saying, “When you pray, do it this way,” and He goes for 20, 25 seconds. If you say the Lord’s prayer, that’s how long it takes. He covers enough. And He knows—this is what’s so beautiful about this. He knows we have short attention spans. He’s not mad. My mind drifts. It happens. So when I write a chapter about that, I think a lot of people, most people, honestly are like, “Oh, thank goodness.” Think about how tender that is of God to recognize our attention.
Ann (04:33):
Because we feel like we’re not as spiritual as that person up front, praying forever.
Brant (04:38):
Because you know people, “I get up at five and I pray for three hours, and then I’m like, “Well, that’s awesome.”
Dave (04:42):
Yeah, it is.
Brant (04:43):
I’m not there yet. I might never be there but look how kind God is to let me play anyway. Right?
Dave:
Yeah.
Brant:
And my attention span’s not there. And then, I had somebody point out that what you do when your mind drifts. Let’s say you go for a walk in the morning. And that’s my prayer thing when I’m walking the dog.
Dave (05:03):
Your golden retriever.
Brant (05:04):
Got the golden retriever.
Dave (05:05):
I’ve seen that dog.
Brant (05:06):
Yeah, she’s a sweetheart.
Ann (05:07):
What’s her name?
Brant (05:08):
Cozy. She’s really good, really fluffy. But I take her out. And again, I struggle to pray. I don’t feel God’s presence. We’ve talked about that. It’s just not a strong feeling for me like it is some people. But I do it anyway because I know the Truth is the Truth. And so I’m walking and I’m talking with God and then my mind drifts. And I’m like, instead of beating myself up for it, you know what I do? Take that thing that your mind just drifted to; that must be something important to you. Start praying about that.
Ann (05:37):
Oh, that’s good.
Dave:
That’s really good.
Brant (05:38):
Fold it back into your prayer.
Ann (05:40):
So grocery shopping.
Brant (05:42):
Maybe. Maybe.
Dave (05:43):
You’re grocery shopping to take care of your family.
Brant (05:45):
Or you can say, “Hey, God, help me get the stuff done today that need to get done.”
Ann:
That’s good.
Brant:
“I was just thinking about grocery shopping. I got this list of stuff and just give me the resources I need for today.” Which is part of the Lord’s prayer, “Give us our daily bread.”
Ann (05:59):
And I don’t know about guys, but women, we travel to our kids, our grandkids.
Brant:
Absolutely.
Ann:
We’re thinking about them. So you’re saying, “Just pray for them.”
Brant (06:06):
Well, that’s something you’re passionate about. You think God cares about what you’re passionate about?
Ann (06:09):
And maybe God took your mind that way you’re saying.
Brant:
Maybe.
Ann:
Who knows?
Brant (06:12):
But instead of beating yourself up for being, “I’m so lame; that’s such a bad prayer.” Instead of that, He cares about what you care for. That’s why you can do this.
Ann (06:21):
Some people are so relieved. How many people say, “I sit and pray and then my mind wanders.”
Brant (06:26):
Yeah. “I think I’m not a very spiritual person.” Yes, you are! But just go ahead and fold that back in because God cares about this stuff.
Ann:
That’s good.
Brant:
In fact, He says you can cast your cares on Him because He cares for you; whatever you’re anxious for. In 1 Peter, it’s what it says. Why not? But people think “I must be the worst Christian, I don’t pray very well, or I don’t feel it.” You do it anyway. And what you do—prayer is just you and God talking together about what you’re doing in life together. That’s it. I’ve realized, I’ve gotten a little better about this since the lockdown stuff, because you do so many Zoom meetings. I’m like, “Why would I miss my Zoom meeting with God? I have one other meeting. Why would I miss the one with the guy who actually can change everything and loves me more than anyone else, is rooting for me, wants to spend time with me, and can actually change things? I’m not missing that meeting.
Ann (07:21):
Yeah. And I think it’s important to, if you feel like the best time for me to pray, because I’m not a sitter, I’m always doing, I’m going, I’m active. And so my best prayer time is walking. My mind is more centered. I just don’t wander as much when I’m walking.
Dave (07:37):
She runs into trees, because her head’s bowed and her eyes are closed.
Brant (07:40):
But that alone is something to pray for.
Dave (07:43):
That’s what made me think, because I’ve had people at my church sometimes say, “Hey, when you pray on stage, your eyes are open.” And I’m like, “I like to look at the congregation.”
Brant:
Oh, I bet.
Ann:
—as you’re praying.
Dave:
Because I’m so grateful. I’m like, “God, look what You’re doing. It’s amazing!” as I’m talking to God. There’s nowhere that we’re told you have to close your eyes and bow your head, which I understand. Sometimes that’s the way to do it, and it’s reverent. But it’s like, man! You’re walking. She loves creation. She feels God in creation. So she’s looking at God as she’s talking to Him.
Brant (08:15):
I do the same thing when I’m commenting on, “It’s amazing how You made light.”
Ann (08:18):
Yes.
Brant (08:19):
“How it reflects through these trees. I love the different greens I can see right now.”
Ann (08:24):
It’s Romans 1:20 that we see Him in His creation.
Brant (08:28):
Right. He reveals His nature.
Ann (08:29):
Yes.
Brant (08:29):
That He loves us. He didn’t have to make everything so beautiful. He didn’t have to make music. What does that have to do with anything other than beauty?
(08:38):
Why are things beautiful? He loves us. We can see that He loves us. To see the things that have been made, and to have your eyes open and talking to Him about that seems like a perfectly human thing to do. I keep my eyes open when I talk to my wife most of the time, I mean, and friends. So if you want to close your eyes to concentrate, that’s great. But this thing where we feel like losers because people give this impression of super spirituality, well, maybe they are super spiritual in some way that we’re not. They’ve got a gift, but that’s not all of us.
Ann (09:08):
Let’s talk about people that maybe—in the subtitle, you talk about introverts.
Brant:
Yeah.
Ann:
Blessed are the introverts.
Brant (09:15):
Yes.
Ann (09:15):
Do you feel like introverted people—do they feel like misfits in America?
Brant (09:21):
Well, in American church culture, you can. Again, in some traditions, like the tradition I’m from, there’s a thing. Now this could be controversial. I just ask that before you fire off a letter, think about it. And I could always be wrong too, but I want to propose the idea that a lot of extroverts kind of feel like they’re in charge of things, and they tell us what we need to be doing based on their gifts. So they’re like, “Evangelize, evangelize, evangelize, evangelize.” Okay. Now that is something I do want my friends and neighbors and everyone, for their own good, to know Who the King is, so that they can have peace. I want that. But the idea that I’m the one that has to be on the street, talking to strangers, terrifies me. Terrifies me. And so you feel this guilt as an introvert. Why?
(10:12):
Well, you know what? Some people have a gift of evangelism, and they need to use it. And others of us have different gifts. That will be mainly where we are concentrating on. So if I’m good at hospitality, I’ve got another gift of teaching, which is what I enjoy doing.
(10:29):
But the idea of talking to strangers, why can’t we have different members of the body that really concentrate in that area, and they’ve got a gift for it, and they can operate in that gift really well? My son’s on the spectrum. I’m on the spectrum. My son has to go door to door. He’s going to be a brain surgeon. He’s at Yale Medical School. He’s going to be a brain surgeon. Can’t he use that? He wants to use that in a missions context.
Ann (10:49):
What would that feel like to him to go to a door?
Brant (10:51):
Death.
Ann (10:52):
Would it?
Brant (10:53):
Honestly, I had to sell cheese and sausage in middle school to raise money for band uniforms. I still tremble at ringing a doorbell. There’s a brochure of cheese or crockery pots. And people felt so sorry for me, like little kid with glasses. I didn’t even make eye contact. But can you see how some people are really good at something? They say, “Everybody has to be doing this all the time.” That’s all that matters. Well, that’s not necessarily. And think about all the letters that Paul writes. Is he telling every single member “You better be out there evangelizing door to door?” Or does he say, “Some people have—you’ve got this gift, that gift, this other gift?”
Dave (11:33):
Well, you are evangelizing every day as an introvert from a radio.
Brant (11:39):
From a room by myself.
Dave (11:40):
Yeah.
Brant (11:41):
Or my producer.
Dave (11:41):
It’s just a different way. I mean, Jesus did say, “Go make disciples.” So we’re called whether we have a gift of door to door or—
Brant (11:48):
Oh, disciple making, right.
Dave (11:49):
We are doing it in a different way. You’re doing it in a beautiful way, and it fits who you are.
Brant (11:54):
The cold call thing that you can make people feel like they have to do. And again, I know people have different. But if you find Paul saying that to everybody all the time, I can’t. He does talk about members that have different uses in the body, and we should all support each other. And that’s how it all works. Some people are given to be—they have prophetic voices into the culture. Some people are given to be evangelists. Some people are given to be teachers. Other people have this pastoral gift. All of that is a disciple-creating mix. And I’m all for it, but we don’t do that with other gifts.
Ann (12:28):
Is that the biggest piece of introversion that you’re talking about in the church? Are there other aspects of being introvert that you can feel like the misfit?
Brant (12:35):
Oh, sure. Like being made to be a greeter at church. Oh my goodness. I would hide behind the folded door. The door would be back. I didn’t mean to, but I just find my body just drifting. And again, some people are so good at it. Why not let them do that?
Ann (12:51):
So Dave and I are both extroverts, and our kids were old enough that we could figure out what they were, and we didn’t even understand “What’s an introvert? That’s so weird.” But we saw this in our son since the day he was born. He’d be around people and, after a while, you could tell that he was just stressing out. And once we got alone and put him in a room by himself or with one of us, as a baby, it was almost like, “Oh, okay.” So as he got older, we realized, “Oh, he needs to recharge. He needs to be alone at times.”
Brant:
Absolutely.
Ann:
So to go on a retreat, a spiritual retreat at a church, to him, it was so overwhelming after a while that he was like, “I need to come home.” But we said, “You need to take some time out of your day to get away and be by yourself to recharge.”
Dave (13:38):
—at the retreat.
Brant:
Yeah.
Ann (13:39):
—at the retreat.
Dave (13:40):
“Just go to your cabin.”
Brant:
Give him a break.
Ann (13:41):
Yes.
Dave (13:42):
“Lay down in bed.”
Brant (13:42):
It’s good to understand that.
Ann (13:44):
And for the leaders to understand other people have that need to be alone. They’re not less spiritual.
Brant (13:49):
Yes.
Ann (13:50):
That’s just who they are.
Brant (13:51):
Now, conversely, I have to say this for me as an introvert. I enjoy teaching Sunday school or whatever. It’s not good enough for me to just do that and say, “Well, I’m an introvert, so I’m not going to be a people person.” No. Make yourself a people person, over time. You have to care about people. You may not enjoy the crush of a full weekend with a bunch of people, and honestly, that exhausts me, too. So there’s mutual submission that can happen here, where as an introvert, I can’t just say, “This is who I am, too bad.” No, I got to love people. It’s not just who I am too. I’ve seen that with some leaders, honestly. “He’s a great speaker, but he’s not really a people person.” Like, “Well, he needs to become a people person because you’re supposed to.” We have to love people. As far as the backslapping or I hang out with a hundred people and I chit chat and make small talk, no, that’s not going to happen.
(14:44):
But I can ask people questions and genuinely care. I can do that as an introvert. So I’ve got to change, but I think church culture could do more to accommodate because there’s a lot of extroverts that are drawn to the stage.
Dave (14:57):
Yeah.
Brant (14:57):
So they wind up making these decisions and not realizing that this isn’t where everybody else is coming from.
Ann (15:02):
Yeah.
Dave (15:08):
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Dave (15:55):
One of the things you get into in the Misfits book is doubt.
Brant (15:58):
Yeah.
Dave (15:59):
Can we talk about doubt? Because that, often, is not allowed.
Ann (16:03):
You like this topic right here, don’t you?
Dave (16:06):
Well, I think part of it’s because I grew up in a church with my mom—single mom, taking me to church—and doubt was really viewed as sin. And again, I’m sort of skeptical. So even as a young boy, but especially in my teenage years, I started to voice questions. And honestly, I wasn’t antagonistic. I literally had real questions that I just wished I could get some answers to. And they were never like, “Hey, yeah, that’s a great question. Let’s talk.” It was, “You’re not spiritual. We who are spiritual don’t have questions like that. We don’t doubt.”
Ann (16:41):
Did you ever feel like that, Brant?
Brant (16:42):
Yeah. In college, I took some religious studies courses, and one of them, a couple of them were just all about tearing down the Christian faith. I went to a secular university, but it was all redactive criticism, and Rudolph Bultmann and Schweitzer and all this stuff I’d never thought about before ever. The different sources of the text and all that. And it really threw me for a loop. But thankfully, I had somebody smart from my past I could call and say, “What do you think about this?” And he explained it. And then I read a couple books countering it. And that made my faith really strong. So what hurts me now is people who don’t express doubt and then just leave the faith. I’m like, “If you would’ve just asked me; I’ve probably struggled through this and thought about it, because I’ve doubted about everything. But we could talk about it. And then I think you would’ve walk away going, ‘Oh my goodness, God’s better than I thought.’” When you go deeper, you go an inch deep, you have these questions like, “Oh my goodness,” but to keep going.
(17:42):
And then, I also encourage people, like doubt can be good, but be an equal opportunity doubter. If you’re going to question the Bible and question Christian ethics or question—that’s fine. You should question things. You better question the culture, too.
Ann (17:56):
So your son, you said, is super smart. He’s on the spectrum. He’s going to Yale. I’m guessing he’s had doubts.
Brant (18:03):
Oh, I’m sure.
Ann (18:04):
I’m thinking of a listener who’s thinking, my kids are expressing so much and they’re listening to YouTube all day, and they’re hearing these things that are just—they feel like, “Oh, this is the truth.” As a parent, how would you face that?
Brant (18:18):
If they ask me questions, I’d be so thankful.
Ann (18:20):
Really?
Brant (18:21):
Yeah. If they’re expressing that, “Let’s talk about this.” Otherwise, you’re shut up with this other stuff, one-sided. And if you don’t know the answer as a parent, find it.
Ann (18:29):
So you’d open the door to it: “Hey, you guys, you probably are hearing things that—
Brant (18:33):
You could say, “I haven’t thought about that before. That’s really interesting.” And you can do that because of the strength of the Truth. You don’t have to have all the answers. You just know God is good, and you don’t need to be worried. All truth is His. So if we keep researching this, we’re going to land in a place where we actually have learned more. Our faith has increased probably. That’s been my experience. So as a parent, if they’re asking questions you haven’t thought about—a lot of these questions, honestly, again, are about an inch deep. They sound smart. And then you realize, “Wait a second, people can make fun of stuff in the Bible. They’ll make a meme out of it.”
Dave (19:11):
I remember, as we’re talking, I felt—I didn’t know the term then—like a misfit, because I doubted and felt like nobody else in church culture ever doubted. And I don’t know when it was when I first came across Thomas. And he says, “I’m not going to believe unless I can see the nail scars.” I was reading the Scripture and it’s like I expected, because of my church background, that Jesus was going to shame him.
Brant (19:34):
Like, “What?”
Dave (19:35):
And say like, “Dude, you loser. I can’t believe you don’t believe.” Jesus doesn’t shame him. Jesus says, “Hey, Thomas.”
Brant (19:42):
Oh, he’s so good.
Dave (19:42):
“You need evidence. Here’s the evidence.” And I’m like, “Okay, I’m not. I’m in. I fit.”
Brant (19:49):
He’s so gentle with us. He doesn’t need to be reminded like John the Baptist himself.
Ann (19:52):
Yes.
Brant (19:53):
John the Baptist himself doubting, and what does Jesus say?
Ann (19:55):
His cousin.
Brant (19:56):
He doesn’t go, “He what? You got to be kidding me. Good grief.” No, he says, “Remind him. Let’s go back through this. We know the Kingdom’s here. Remind him of this.” That’s a really tender thing for God. He understands it. He gets it. He honors us anyway.
Dave (20:15):
And I think He’s excited that you’re asking questions. You won’t believe this. We were in Branson, Missouri speaking at a marriage conference for coaches, football coaches. Saturday afternoon was off, so Ann says, “Let’s go to Queen Esther,” Sight and Sound Theater. And we had been told it’s fantastic. So we go, and it’s really well done. The biblical story of Queen Esther, and they acted it out. Anyway, they have an intermission. And I’m like, “It’s so long they have an intermission?” But anyway, there was no one—five seats beside me are wide open. And so we’re sitting there during the intermission, and this guy sits down beside me and leans into me—some stranger. It was so like, first, he sat there, and I’m like, “Do I turn and say hi to this guy?” But then he leans and lays on my lap. And it was the weirdest thing ever.
(21:09):
So I turn and I go, “Hey, dude.” He goes, “You remember me?” I go, “You look sort of familiar.” He goes, “I talk about you every time I give my testimony. You led me to Jesus. I was part of your church in Detroit 20 years ago.”
Brant:
Wow.
Dave (21:23):
And I look at him, I go, “You’re the guy in the lobby at the men’s retreat—the skeptic.” He goes, “Yep.” And Brant, I’ll never forget this, because I was speaking at our men’s retreat. We got 1,000/2,000 men there. It’s a big deal. And a session’s over, and I’m walking through the lobby, and I’m near the door and this guy comes up. He goes, “You know what? I don’t believe any stuff you just talked about. I’m a skeptic.” And he quoted somebody—I think it was Dawkins, but he quoted a very well-known atheist argument. He goes, “And that’s why I don’t believe.” And I look at him—I’ll never forget this—and I go, “Oh yeah, I’ve walked through that whole argument as well. And here’s the three reasons I think he’s wrong. And I think you can believe.” And I just ding, ding, ding.
(22:05):
And he goes, “I went home and I researched what you said, and I gave my life to Christ. I talk about you every time I give my testimony. Here’s my wife, here’s my kids. My whole life’s transformed.” And I thought there’s a doubter who said, “Is this true or not?” And here’s the thing, God loves it when we bring our doubts to Him because he’s like, “I’ve got the Truth.”
Ann (22:27):
As you said, He’s not afraid of our questions.
Brant (22:29):
No, not at all. And so we need to not be afraid. And then also trust God’s Truth. Even if we don’t have the answer, let’s find it together. Let’s do a mutual inquiry into the truth. That’s what Dallas Willard said. He’s like, “I don’t debate people, but I will do a mutual inquiry into the Truth,” because he’s very confident. He knows where that Truth leads. If you really want to search for Truth, I’ll do it with you. I don’t have all the answers. I know where it goes. So I’m very confident.
Ann (22:55):
I think that’s a really good reminder, especially for me as a mom, because I would worry about my kids when they were in high school. I’m like, “Where are they spiritually?” But we don’t have to worry. We can pray even when we don’t feel like it.
Brant (23:06):
You take your anxieties to Him.
Ann:
Yes.
Brant:
Tell Him what you need and remember what He’s done.
Dave (23:13):
And sit down with your son or daughter tonight and have a real conversation. That’d be pretty cool. As you were saying that, Brant, I’m seeing parents do that around the world because of what you said. Yeah, I’m going to sit down and say, “Hey, let’s talk. You have questions, so do I. Let’s figure this out together.”
What a great day with Brant Hansen again. And again, his book is called Blessed Are the Misfits. You’ll love this book. You want to get this book for yourself or somebody else. Maybe get a whole bunch of them. Just go to FamilyLifeToday.com, click on the link in the show notes and we’ll get it to you.
Ann (23:47):
Okay. You may not know this, but we want to hear from you.
Dave (23:51):
Yeah, like literally hear you.
Ann (23:54):
You can leave us a voice message with your questions, concerns, praise reports, or whatever. Maybe Dave said something that you totally disagree with.
Dave (24:05):
Oh, why’d you have to pick on me? Maybe it’s you said something.
Ann (24:07):
Maybe, probably.
Dave (24:09):
Or maybe it was inspiring. See, I was nice.
Ann (24:12):
No, I know you’re always nicer than me.
Dave (24:14):
I don’t think so. Or maybe you just want us to answer a question or explore a certain topic. Whatever you want to say, you get to call and say.
Ann (24:24):
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Dave (24:38):
Again, it’s speakpipe.com/FamilyLifeToday.
Ann (24:45):
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