FamilyLife Today® Podcast

The Power of Affirmation

with Matt and Lisa Jacobson | September 25, 2020
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You've got power, but it's not where you think. It's in your tongue! Matt and Lisa Jacobson join with Dave and Ann Wilson to talk about the power of words in marriage. The scriptures tell us that kind words are like a honeycomb and build our spouse up, rather than tear them down. Lisa remembers a time when she complimented Matt, only to learn how ugly he felt as a child growing up. You can help heal your spouse's past wounds by practicing affirmation through heartfelt, encouraging words.

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  • Dave and Ann Wilson

    Dave and Ann Wilson are hosts of FamilyLife Today®, FamilyLife’s nationally-syndicated radio program. Dave and Ann have been married for more than 38 years and have spent the last 33 teaching and mentoring couples and parents across the country. They have been featured speakers at FamilyLife’s Weekend to Remember® marriage getaway since 1993 and have also hosted their own marriage conferences across the country. Cofounders of Kensington Church—a national, multicampus church that hosts more than 14,000 visitors every weekend—the Wilsons are the creative force behind DVD teaching series Rock Your Marriage and The Survival Guide To Parenting, as well as authors of the recently released book Vertical Marriage (Zondervan, 2019). Dave is a graduate of the International School of Theology, where he received a Master of Divinity degree. A Ball State University Hall of Fame quarterback, Dave served the Detroit Lions as chaplain for 33 years. Ann attended the University of Kentucky. She has been active alongside Dave in ministry as a speaker, writer, small-group leader, and mentor to countless wives of professional athletes. The Wilsons live in the Detroit area. They have three grown sons, CJ, Austin, and Cody, three daughters-in-law, and a growing number of grandchildren.

Matt and Lisa Jacobson talk about the power of words in marriage. Lisa remembers a time when she complimented Matt, only to learn how ugly he felt as a child growing up.

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The Power of Affirmation

With Matt and Lisa Jacobson
September 25, 2020
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Bob: I mean—

Lisa: Appreciate it.

Bob: I mean, yes; I just want to affirm you and make you feel good. [Laughter]

Matt: We feel affirmed.

Lisa: Good; good.

Bob: Thank you guys for being here.

Matt: It’s been great to be here.

Lisa: Right; thank you.

Matt: What a blessing. Thank you.

Bob: Let me encourage listeners, who are saying, “I don’t even know where to start.” Here’s an action point: get a copy of Matt and Lisa’s books, 100 Words of Affirmation Your Husband Needs to Hear; 100 Words of Affirmation Your Wife Needs to Hear. Read through it, pick five that you can start with, and just start saying these things to each other. We’ve got copies of the books in our FamilyLife Today Resource Center. You can order the books from us, online, at; or you can call 1-800-FL-TODAY to order by phone.

Again, the titles of the books: 100 Words of Affirmation Your Husband Needs to Hear; 100 Words of Affirmation Your Wife Needs to Hear. We’ll send you both books when you order them. Again, order, online, at; or call 1-800-358-6329—that’s 1-800-“F” as in family, “L” as in life, and then the word, “TODAY,” to get your copies of Matt and Lisa’s books.

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And I hope you have a great weekend. I hope you and your family are able, in some form or fashion, to worship together with your local church this weekend. I hope you can be here on Monday when we’re going to meet a woman, who always dreamed of being a mom until that dream was taken away from her temporarily. We’ll meet Heather DeJesus Yates and talk about how she has become a mother of thousands. I hope you can tune in for that.

I want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our hosts, Dave and Ann Wilson, I’m Bob Lepine. We will see you back next time for another edition of FamilyLife Today.

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