FamilyLife Today® Podcast

True Women Speak Out

with Barbara Rainey, Karen Loritts | April 29, 2016
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If you could have a "do over" in life, what would you want to redo? Barbara Rainey and Karen Loritts comment on the hardest part of living out biblical womanhood in their own lives.

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  • If you could have a "do over" in life, what would you want to redo? Barbara Rainey and Karen Loritts comment on the hardest part of living out biblical womanhood in their own lives.

  • Dave and Ann Wilson

    Dave and Ann Wilson are hosts of FamilyLife Today®, FamilyLife’s nationally-syndicated radio program. Dave and Ann have been married for more than 38 years and have spent the last 33 teaching and mentoring couples and parents across the country. They have been featured speakers at FamilyLife’s Weekend to Remember® marriage getaway since 1993 and have also hosted their own marriage conferences across the country. Cofounders of Kensington Church—a national, multicampus church that hosts more than 14,000 visitors every weekend—the Wilsons are the creative force behind DVD teaching series Rock Your Marriage and The Survival Guide To Parenting, as well as authors of the recently released book Vertical Marriage (Zondervan, 2019). Dave is a graduate of the International School of Theology, where he received a Master of Divinity degree. A Ball State University Hall of Fame quarterback, Dave served the Detroit Lions as chaplain for 33 years. Ann attended the University of Kentucky. She has been active alongside Dave in ministry as a speaker, writer, small-group leader, and mentor to countless wives of professional athletes. The Wilsons live in the Detroit area. They have three grown sons, CJ, Austin, and Cody, three daughters-in-law, and a growing number of grandchildren.

If you could have a “do over” in life, what would you want to redo? Barbara Rainey and Karen Loritts comment on the hardest part of living out biblical womanhood in their own lives.

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Bob: I think it would be appropriate for you to thank the Lord and express your appreciate to these women for what they’ve shared with us this morning.


Would you do that? [Applause] Thank you, ladies.


Dennis: Well what we’ve been listening to is a panel by my wife Barbara and Karen Loritts, Dr. Crawford Loritts’ wife in Roswell Georgia.

Bob, you have a quote that you really like, that I like as well, that Karen was just talking about there. You know what I’m talking about; don’t you?

Bob: Yes. It’s Dr. Martyn Lloyd-Jones. I can’t quote it exactly; but he said: “Our biggest problem today is we spend more time listening to ourselves than we do talking to ourselves.” Instead of probing and saying, “What am I feeling?” and “What am I anxious about?” we should be counseling our own soul. We should be speaking the truth to ourselves, and believing it, and then doing it, as Karen said.

Dennis: Yes. What I would just say to wives today: “You really need to have a source of wisdom from other women, who are a lap or two ahead of you in the race of life—


—mature women, who have followed Jesus Christ for a couple of decades, and can speak into your life about being a woman, a wife, a mom, and helping you be wise about it. If necessary be counter-cultural.

Bob: By the way, we’re going to dig up that quote exactly, and we’ll put it on our website at and put it on our Facebook® page as well for folks who want to see the quote.

What you’re talking about is exactly the reason why a lot of young wives are picking up a copy of Barbara’s book, Letters to My Daughters, and gleaning the wisdom from an older woman—a wife who’s been married for more than four decades, who can offer some wise counsel about how you live out your marriage and about how you thrive in it.

Dennis: Yes. I think Proverbs 31 always is used as a descriptor of a godly woman—


—verse 25 and 26: “Strength and dignity are her clothing. She laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.”

Bob, I think that’s what Barbara did when she kind of opened her heart and put it between two covers of a book and advised women—really, with wisdom and with kindness—“How do you help your husband? How do you come alongside him and believe in him / encourage him? If necessary, speak the truth to him at times when he really needs to hear it; but be a cheerleader / be on his team.” I just don’t think there are that many voices in younger women's lives today who are speaking into their lives with that kind of wisdom and kindness that Proverbs 31 talks about.

Bob: Of course, this month, we have been making Barbara’s book available to any listener who is interested in getting a copy.


We’re asking that you would consider making a donation in support of the ministry. As you make that donation, we’d like to invite you to request a copy of Letters to My Daughters: The Art of Being a Wife by Barbara Rainey. You can go online to make a donation at Or you can call 1-800-FL-TODAY—make a donation in support of this ministry. Or you can mail your donation to FamilyLife Today at PO Box 7111, Little Rock, AR; the zip code is 72223. Be sure, when you get in touch with us, to let us know you’d like a copy of Barbara’s book. We won’t send that out automatically when you send a donation—you’ll need to let us know that you’d like a copy of the book.

Let me just say—your financial support is critical. Without it, we could not do all that we do, here at FamilyLife. This daily radio program is dependent on folks, like you, helping to support the ministry. “Thanks,” in advance, for whatever you’re able to do as you make a donation today.


Be sure to ask for a copy of Barbara’s book when you get in touch with us.

Let me wrap up here by saying, “Happy Anniversary!” to Raul and Gloria Ochoa in Casa Grande, Arizona. Today, they celebrate their 39th wedding anniversary / got married back in ‘77. “Congratulations!” to the Ochoas.

We are big on anniversaries, here at FamilyLife. We believe that it is strong healthy intact marriages, like the Ochoas, that make for a strong healthy society. We are the Proud Sponsor of Anniversaries. In fact, we would love to make this year’s anniversary for you and your spouse your best anniversary ever. We have some ideas / some suggestions we’ll share with you. Just go online at and give us your anniversary date and your email address or your text number. We’ll send you some suggestions about 30 days before your anniversary rolls around so you can have an extra special anniversary in 2016.


With that, we’ve got to wrap things up for today. Thanks for being with us. Hope you have a great weekend. Hope you and your family are able to worship together this weekend in church.

I hope you can join us back on Monday. We’re going to talk about some of the things—you’ve heard, as a mom / you’ve been told, as a mom—that just aren’t true / things you may be believing about being a mom that don’t square up with what the Bible says. We’ll talk about that Monday. Hope you can tune in for that.

I want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, along with our entire broadcast production team. On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I’m Bob Lepine. We’ll see you back Monday for another edition of FamilyLife Today.

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