Welcome to Stronger Forever
Strength Track, Week Five

Time to challenge yourself. Click on an icon below for great ideas to try throughout this week.

Get intentional! And get one step closer to a stronger forever.

activity / idea
When your marriage is under stress, what patterns tend to repeat themselves? (e.g. My spouse withdraws. I lash out. I get insecure. My spouse gets critical. I work harder. My spouse is immobilized.) How do you know when each other is stressed?

Take time together to be proactive before those days hit:

  • What’s one destructive pattern that you could hijack for a more constructive one?
  • What’s one positive action you could take together when one or both of your are stressed? (e.g. Taking a date night. Praying together. Eliminating the yelling so we can work against the problem instead of against each other.)

suggested time range
20 minutes

To interrupt destructive stress cycles and replace them with strengthening moves.

activity / idea

Increase your gentle, positive touches of your spouse by three times per hour when you’re together.

  • Touch your mate’s back.
  • Put your hand on his or her hand during dinner, discussion, or entertainment.
  • Place your hand on his or her thigh when sitting together—perhaps closer to the inner thigh if the hand is under a table or blanket.
  • Touch the nape of your spouse’s neck or kiss behind his or her ear.

suggested time range
Three additional times/hour

Create anticipation and affection without saying a word.

activity / idea
How much do you know about what your spouse likes in bed? Begin by lying in bed with one another, clothes optional. Ask:

  • What turns you on?
  • What do you love that I do in bed?
  • Is there something I could do to please you even more?
  • What’s one of the best memories you have of us in bed?
  • What’s an arousing area of your body for you that I might not guess?

suggested time range
Once weekly, minimum

Increase your sexual IQ of your spouse.

activity / idea
Discuss, then establish a few mutually agreed-upon guidelines for the devices in your home.


  • Set a “bedtime” alarm on your phone—and choose to not use it after that time.
  • No phones at the dinner table.
  • No interaction with your phone in the active presence of others.
  • Place phones in a basket or bowl upon entering house.
  • Stop movies/TV at a certain hour; after that point, we discuss our day/pray together/snuggle.

suggested time range
Daily, as often as needed

Remove tech barriers cannibalizing quality and quantity of relationship time.

As you cool down, it’s time to reflect.

Read Song of Solomon 2:15:
“Catch the foxes for us,
the little foxes
that spoil the vineyards,
for our vineyards are in blossom.”

Pray together, remember to stretch yourself this week for the sake of your spouse, and stay flexible with your growth:

Lord, show us what’s getting in the way of us being one flesh. Help us to be jealous for our marriage; give us the courage and wisdom to address what’s eating away at our love for each other.