FamilyLife Blended® Minute

Are We Family or Are We Not?

with Ron Deal | November 6, 2020
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  • Ron Deal

    Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and Preparing to Blend. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, popular conference speaker, and host of the FamilyLife Blended podcast. He and his wife, Nan, have three sons and live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Learn more at

So, are we family or are we not?

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Are We Family or Are We Not?

With Ron Deal
November 06, 2020
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Ron: So, are we family or are we not?

Announcer: For FamilyLife Blended®, here’s Ron Deal.

Ron: God is relational and we, as his image-bearers, also, have a deep need for connection. Being loved, finding belonging, and giving love—with God and others—is among the deepest longings of our soul.

So, when a child can’t win a parent’s approval, a person feels unaccepted by their peers, a spouse feels unimportant to their partner, or when a stepcouple feels like their family just isn’t coming together; anxiety and fear set in. Essentially they are asking, “Am I important to you or not?” and that question adds to what gets in the way of finding connection. It’s much better to act out of your love for them than worry about their love for you. For FamilyLife Blended I’m Ron Deal.

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