FamilyLife Blended® Minute

Being Held Hostage

with Ron Deal | February 2, 2024
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Never let your parenting be held hostage.

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  • Ron Deal

    Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and Preparing to Blend. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, popular conference speaker, and host of the FamilyLife Blended podcast. He and his wife, Nan, have three sons and live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Learn more at

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Being Held Hostage

With Ron Deal
February 02, 2024
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Ron: Never let your parenting be held hostage.

Announcer: For FamilyLife Blended®, here’s Ron Deal.

Ron: Single parents and stepfamily parents know that their parenting is affected by how the other home parents. If they buy the kids things, you feel like you have to buy them things, too. If they say, “Yes” to something you said, “No” to, you start rethinking your decisions. Pretty soon the fear of what an ex might do can paralyze you.

Pray for courage to press in despite what the other home is doing. And fight the temptation to try and “undo” their influence. Keep your balance and practice good parenting. And trust that providing consistent boundaries and love over time will, in the end, make all the difference. For FamilyLife Blended I’m Ron Deal.

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