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Chasing Acceptance

with Ron Deal | March 14, 2023
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This one might sound off track at first, but stay with me. Don't care too much about winning your kid's approval. Chasing their approval makes you hesitate when you need to set a boundary or be firm. So not caring puts you in a position of strength. This is why stepparents who chase their child's acceptance are at a disadvantage. It's also why they need the biological parent to be the heavy at first so they can focus on bonding. It's a disadvantage but teamwork will get you through it.

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  • This one might sound off track at first, but stay with me. Don't care too much about winning your kid's approval. Chasing their approval makes you hesitate when you need to set a boundary or be firm. So not caring puts you in a position of strength. This is why stepparents who chase their child's acceptance are at a disadvantage. It's also why they need the biological parent to be the heavy at first so they can focus on bonding. It's a disadvantage but teamwork will get you through it.

  • Ron Deal

    Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and Preparing to Blend. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, popular conference speaker, and host of the FamilyLife Blended podcast. He and his wife, Nan, have three sons and live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Learn more at FamilyLife.com/blended.

Sometimes parents find themselves at a real disadvantage.

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Chasing Acceptance

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March 14, 2023
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Ron: Sometimes parents find themselves at a real disadvantage.

Announcer: For FamilyLife Blended®, here’s Ron Deal.

Ron: Okay, this one might sound a little off track at first, but stay with me. Don’t care too much about winning your kid’s approval. You see, chasing their approval puts you in a position of weakness. It makes you hesitate when you need to set a boundary or be firm. So not caring puts you in a position of strength.

Now think about it. This is why stepparents who on some level are chasing their child’s acceptance are at a disadvantage. And it’s why they need the biological parent to be the heavy in the beginning so they can focus on bonding. Yeah, it’s a disadvantage but teamwork makes you strong and will get you through it. For FamilyLife Blended I’m Ron Deal.

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