Four Levels of Love

with Ron Deal | December 19, 2019

French abbot Bernard of Clairvaux said there are four levels of love. First, the lowest level is to love myself solely. (That's not love. That's being self-absorbed.) Second, to love you for my sake. (That's using people.) Third, to love you for your sake. (That's more like it. Selflessness.) But the highest level of love, he said, is to love myself for your sake. Didn't Jesus say to love your neighbor as yourself? Knowing you're valuable so you can give yourself away sounds like Jesus to me.

French abbot Bernard of Clairvaux said there are four levels of love. First, the lowest level is to love myself solely. (That's not love. That's being self-absorbed.) Second, to love you for my sake. (That's using people.) Third, to love you for your sake. (That's more like it. Selflessness.) But the highest level of love, he said, is to love myself for your sake. Didn't Jesus say to love your neighbor as yourself? Knowing you're valuable so you can give yourself away sounds like Jesus to me.

Four Levels of Love

With Ron Deal
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December 18, 2019
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In this 60 second short feature, Ron Deal delivers a daily word of encouragement for those in stepfamilies and those who know them—which is a whole lot of us today. A relevant, real-world outlook with a biblical perspective.

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