Growing Together
When she wants closeness and connection she tosses him a hint and hopes he'll figure it out. And he just hears criticism. You can blame their families of origin for that. In her family, no one ever made a direct request for closeness. That felt too vulnerable and in his family indirect communication was how you let someone know they weren't pulling their weight. Okay, I know this couple who is learning to forgive. Be patient with one another's insecurities and speak more plainly about needs.
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When she wants closeness and connection she tosses him a hint and hopes he'll figure it out. And he just hears criticism. You can blame their families of origin for that. In her family, no one ever made a direct request for closeness. That felt too vulnerable and in his family indirect communication was how you let someone know they weren't pulling their weight. Okay, I know this couple who is learning to forgive. Be patient with one another's insecurities and speak more plainly about needs.
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Ron Deal
Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and ...more
I know this couple who really get on each other’s nerves. You can blame their parents for that.
Ron: I know this couple who really get on each other’s nerves. You can blame their parents for that.
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Ron: Oh, yeah and when she wants more closeness and connection, she tosses him a hint and hopes he’ll figure it out. And he, well, he just hears criticism instead of her request. You can blame their families of origin for that. See, in her family, no one ever made a direct request for closeness. That felt too vulnerable and in his family indirect communication was how you let someone know they weren’t pulling their weight.
Okay, I know this couple that is learning to forgive. Be patient with one another’s insecurities and speak more plainly about their needs. You can blame their Savior for that. For FamilyLife Blended, I’m Ron Deal.
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