Guide, Guard & Direct
A stepdad I know said, My wife is so protective of her kids. She blocks me from asking them to do things and goes behind my back. When your child has been through a lot you want to protect them. But when you continually guide, guard, and direct the stepparent or defend your kids at all costs, you cause a new set of problems and ironically, hurt your kids. When you treat them as fragile you keep them fragile. If you really want to help your kids, be their parent, not their overprotector.
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A stepdad I know said, My wife is so protective of her kids. She blocks me from asking them to do things and goes behind my back. When your child has been through a lot you want to protect them. But when you continually guide, guard, and direct the stepparent or defend your kids at all costs, you cause a new set of problems and ironically, hurt your kids. When you treat them as fragile you keep them fragile. If you really want to help your kids, be their parent, not their overprotector.
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Ron Deal
Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and ...more
Kids in stepfamilies go through a lot. Which is one reason their parent can become overprotective.
Ron: Kids in stepfamilies go through a lot. Which is one reason their parent can become overprotective.
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Ron: This stepdad I know just poured out his heart. He said, “My wife is so protective of her kids. She blocks me from asking them to do things and goes behind my back.”
Hey parents, I get it. When your child has been through a lot you want to protect them. But when you continually guide, guard, and direct the stepparent or defend your kids at all costs, well, you’re just causing a new set of problems and ironically, hurting your kids. You see, when you treat them as fragile you keep them fragile. No, if you really want to help your kids, be their parent, not their overprotector. For FamilyLife Blended, I’m Ron Deal.
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