I Live in a Stepfamily, But He Doesn’t
This stepmom frequently felt like an outsider but her husband couldn't understand. Then she realized he can't experience the family the way she did. He was an insider while she was the only outsider. Is this you? Don't blame each other. That just pushes you apart. Listen to the other person's perspective and be willing to be influenced by it. In this case, the husband could listen to his daughters through his wife's ears. And the stepmom can stop expecting him to feel her every frustration.
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This stepmom frequently felt like an outsider but her husband couldn't understand. Then she realized he can't experience the family the way she did. He was an insider while she was the only outsider. Is this you? Don't blame each other. That just pushes you apart. Listen to the other person's perspective and be willing to be influenced by it. In this case, the husband could listen to his daughters through his wife's ears. And the stepmom can stop expecting him to feel her every frustration.
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Ron Deal
Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and Preparing to Blend. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, popular conference speaker, and host of the FamilyLife Blended podcast. He and his wife, Nan, have three sons and live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Learn more at FamilyLife.com/blended.
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Ron Deal
Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and ...more
Ron, I figured it out. I live in a stepfamily, but my husband doesn’t.
Ron: Ron, I figured it out. I live in a stepfamily, but my husband doesn’t.
Announcer: For FamilyLife Blended®, here’s Ron Deal.
Ron: Let me explain. This stepmom of four frequently felt like an outsider but her husband, he just couldn’t understand. And then it dawned on her: he can’t experience the family the way I do. He’s an insider with everyone. I’m the only outsider. If this is you, here’s what you do.
Don’t blame each other. That just pushes you apart. Listen to the other person’s perspective and be willing to be influenced by it. In this case, the husband could start by listening to his daughters through his wife’s ears. And the stepmom can stop expecting him to feel her every frustration. For FamilyLife Blended, I’m Ron Deal.
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