FamilyLife Blended® Minute

Stepparent Tip #4: Monitor

with Ron Deal | April 15, 2024
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Wise new stepparents are like hall monitors. They know what's going on but they aren't always a part of it.

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  • Ron Deal

    Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and Preparing to Blend. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, popular conference speaker, and host of the FamilyLife Blended podcast. He and his wife, Nan, have three sons and live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Learn more at

Wise new stepparents are like hall monitors. They know what’s going on but they aren’t always a part of it.

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Stepparent Tip #4: Monitor

With Ron Deal
April 15, 2024
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Ron: Wise new stepparents are like hall monitors. They know what’s going on, but they aren’t always a part of it.

Announcer: For FamilyLife Blended®, here’s Ron Deal.

Ron: You know eager stepparents have the best of intentions but sometimes they just jump into the middle of a child’s life too quickly. So let me give you a tip. Wise is the stepparent who monitors. Let me explain what that means.

Monitoring means you know the child’s schedule. You check in with them about band practice and ask them about friends and the upcoming math test and what they want for Christmas. But you don’t step into the child’s personal life, their feelings, and their concerns until they invite you in. You see you have to take a small step before you can take a bigger step. So hang in there. You won’t just be the hall monitor forever. For FamilyLife Blended I’m Ron Deal.

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