The Hovering Parent
Hovering parents, sometimes called helicopter parents, stay on top of their kids. "When are you going to get your homework done?" "Did you take out the trash yet?" You may be trying to teach responsibility but you're really telling the kids they aren't capable. That's debilitating and when it comes from a stepparent, it's even worse. It short circuits your developing relationship and makes you feel unsafe to be around. To build up a child coach them from the side, not force them from the top.
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About the Guest
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Hovering parents, sometimes called helicopter parents, stay on top of their kids. "When are you going to get your homework done?" "Did you take out the trash yet?" You may be trying to teach responsibility but you're really telling the kids they aren't capable. That's debilitating and when it comes from a stepparent, it's even worse. It short circuits your developing relationship and makes you feel unsafe to be around. To build up a child coach them from the side, not force them from the top.
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Ron Deal
Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and ...more
Hovering, overbearing parents squash kids.
Ron: Hovering, overbearing parents squash kids.
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Ron: Hovering parents, sometimes we call them helicopter parents, stay on top of their kids. “When are you going to get your homework done?” “Did you take out the trash yet?” “I’ve told you a hundred times, you have to manage your time better.”
Now, you may be trying to teach responsibility but you’re really telling the kids that they aren’t capable. That’s debilitating and when it comes from a stepparent, it’s even worse. It short circuits your developing relationship and makes you feel unsafe to be around. Hey, if you really want to build up a child, get off their back. Coach them from the side, not force them from the top. For FamilyLife Blended I’m Ron Deal.
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