The No Threat Message
The answer to this question is important because a child who thinks you’re trying to take their parent’s place will likely work hard to prevent you from doing so. So, just tell them and tell the biological parent, too. A stepmom might say to the Mom: “I want you to know, that I know, you’re the mom, not me. My job is to bless your kids, not get in the way.†Doing this lowers the child’s and the parent’s sense of threat and their need to oppose the stepparent. It invites cooperation.
About the Guest
Ron Deal
Ron Deal is Director of FamilyLife Blended®️ for FamilyLife®️ and President of Smart Stepfamilies™️. He is a family ministry consultant and conducts marriage and family seminars around the country; he specializes in marriage education and stepfamily enrichment. He is one of the most widely read authors on stepfamily living in the country.
About the Host
Ron Deal
Ron Deal is Director of FamilyLife Blended®️ for FamilyLife®️ and President of Smart Stepfamilies™️. He is a family ministry consultant and conducts marriage and family seminars around the country; he specializes in marriage education and stepfamily enrichment. He is one of the most widely read authors on stepfamily living in the country.
Episode Transcript
Ron: How do you let stepchildren know you’re not trying to take their parent’s place?
Announcer: For FamilyLife Blended®, here’s Ron Deal.
Ron: The answer to this question is important because a child who thinks you’re trying to take their parent’s place will likely work hard to prevent you from doing so. So, I say, just tell them. And while you’re at it, tell the biological parent, too.
A stepmom might say to the Mom: “I just want you to know, that I know, you’re the mom, not me. I will always respect that and I will speak well of you to your children. My job is to bless your kids, not get in the way.” Now see, doing this lowers the child’s and the parent’s sense of threat and their need to oppose the stepparent. It invites cooperation. For FamilyLife Blended®, I’m Ron Deal.
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