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When Elephants Fight

with Ron Deal | March 21, 2024
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There's an old African proverb that says, "When two elephants fight, it's the grass that suffers."

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  • Ron Deal

    Ron L. Deal is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the country. He is Director of FamilyLife Blended® for FamilyLife®, founder of Smart Stepfamilies™, and the author and Consulting Editor of the Smart Stepfamily Series of books including the bestselling Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages® and Becoming Stepfamily Smart (with Dr. Gary Chapman), The Smart Stepfamily: 7 Steps to a Healthy Family, and Preparing to Blend. Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, popular conference speaker, and host of the FamilyLife Blended podcast. He and his wife, Nan, have three sons and live in Little Rock, Arkansas. Learn more at

There’s an old African proverb that says, “When two elephants fight, it’s the grass that suffers.”

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When Elephants Fight

With Ron Deal
March 21, 2024
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Ron: There’s an old African proverb that says, “When two elephants fight, it’s the grass that suffers.”

Announcer: For FamilyLife Blended®, here’s Ron Deal.

Ron: You know, conflicts that are managed well generally are a good thing. They resolve a problem and we move on. But when elephants fight for territory or dominance, something innocent is bound to get caught in the cross-fire.

In divided families, children have to move between homes, but when their parents battle it’s the children who get trampled. Of course, the parents are not trying to hurt their children. They get so caught up in the fight that they lose sight of what it’s doing to their kids. If your children move between homes, give a lot of consideration to how your interaction impacts the children. Be respectful. Show consideration to the other home so the grass can grow.

For FamilyLife Blended I’m Ron Deal.

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