FamilyLife Today® Podcast

A Shift in Our Culture

with Dennis Rainey | July 16, 2012
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Who should stay home with the kids? Dennis Rainey takes a look at a new trend in our culture in which the wife becomes the sole breadwinner while her husband stays home with the kids. What effect does this arrangement have on the family, and where might this new train of thought lead us in the long run?

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  • Who should stay home with the kids? Dennis Rainey takes a look at a new trend in our culture in which the wife becomes the sole breadwinner while her husband stays home with the kids. What effect does this arrangement have on the family, and where might this new train of thought lead us in the long run?

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A Shift in Our Culture

With Dennis Rainey
July 16, 2012
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Bob: —but, at the same time, the Scriptures do give us some clues.  We can apply biblically-based wisdom as we evaluate, in our own families, whether this is a right or a

wrong decision for our family to make. I’m just guessing here—that you would say, “Most of the time, if we do that, dad’s going to be out doing the work and mom’s going to be overseeing the household.”

Dennis: Yes; and I think moms will work outside the home—part-time, full-time. I think that can happen.  I think it does happen.  Yet, if you want to take a look at what’s happening in the culture—the family is falling apart because of the economic pressures we are putting on it—to have more, acquire more, live at a higher standard. I’m now tipping my hand, Bob, about what I will say about this because I’m looking at the cup of coffee—it’s about half-gone.

Here’s what I’m going to do, as we unpack this, this week. In the absence of any clear

biblical prohibition against or blessing for stay-at-home dads, what I want to do is provide a biblical mirror for you to look into and perhaps reveal some blind spots that you may have as you consider making this decision—or, you know someone who has already made it.  Perhaps you see them headed for disaster; and maybe, you’d like to help them.

It’s not my intention, on this broadcast, to beat people up. Life is tough enough as it is.

We’re all about encouraging people, cheering them on—but cheering them on, according to the biblical blueprints—to be a follower of Christ, and to do our best to try to live life the way God designed it, and pass on that perspective to the next generation.

Bob:  I feel like we need to say we’re not tackling the issue of two parents working—in

this context.

Dennis:  No.  No, the hornet's nest that we’ve thrown a stone at—this is sufficient.

Although, it’s not a huge number right now; but I do think what’s happening is—there is a shift going on in the culture. As we’ll talk about, there is a rejection, in many places, of what is normative in Scripture.

Bob:  You don’t talk about this specifically in your book, Stepping Up.  I mean, you don’t address the phenomena of stay-at-home dads specifically, but you talk about provision and protection and how that is a part of what courageous manhood ought to look like.

If our listeners don’t have a copy of the book, Stepping Up: A Call to Courageous Manhood, I would encourage them to get a copy.  I hope many of our listeners are going to be joining us at the Stepping UpNational Men’s Simulcast that is taking place on Saturday, August 4th.  Details about the simulcast can be found, online, at 

You can find one of the simulcast sites near where you live and plan to attend; or if there is not a simulcast site near where you live and your church would like to host one, again, more details can be found, online, at  The simulcast is Saturday, August 4th. is the website; or call if you have any questions:  1-800-358-6329; that’s 1-800-“F” as in family, “L” as in life, and then the word, “TODAY”.

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And we want to encourage you to be back with us again tomorrow when we are going to continue to look at the subject of stay-at-home dads and talk about some of the problems that may be associated with that.  Hope you can join us.

I want to thank our engineer today, Keith Lynch, and our entire broadcast production

team.  On behalf of our host, Dennis Rainey, I’m Bob Lepine. We will see you back next time for another edition of FamilyLife Today.

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