FamilyLife Today® Podcast

I Can’t Do This Anymore

with Carey and Toni Nieuwhof | September 7, 2021
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Are you "done" with marriage as you have been doing it? Carey and Toni Nieuwhof explain how coming to the end of yourself is the best place to be.

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  • Dave and Ann Wilson

    Dave and Ann Wilson are hosts of FamilyLife Today®, FamilyLife’s nationally-syndicated radio program. Dave and Ann have been married for more than 38 years and have spent the last 33 teaching and mentoring couples and parents across the country. They have been featured speakers at FamilyLife’s Weekend to Remember® marriage getaway since 1993 and have also hosted their own marriage conferences across the country. Cofounders of Kensington Church—a national, multicampus church that hosts more than 14,000 visitors every weekend—the Wilsons are the creative force behind DVD teaching series Rock Your Marriage and The Survival Guide To Parenting, as well as authors of the recently released book Vertical Marriage (Zondervan, 2019). Dave is a graduate of the International School of Theology, where he received a Master of Divinity degree. A Ball State University Hall of Fame quarterback, Dave served the Detroit Lions as chaplain for 33 years. Ann attended the University of Kentucky. She has been active alongside Dave in ministry as a speaker, writer, small-group leader, and mentor to countless wives of professional athletes. The Wilsons live in the Detroit area. They have three grown sons, CJ, Austin, and Cody, three daughters-in-law, and a growing number of grandchildren.

Are you “done” with marriage as you have been doing it? Carey and Toni Nieuwhof explain how coming to the end of yourself is the best place to be.

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I Can’t Do This Anymore

With Carey and Toni Nieuwhof
September 07, 2021
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Bob: I know there are some of you who can relate to what Toni and Carey were talking about today. You’ve been at that frustration point, where you’ve thought, “I can’t do this anymore.” Maybe you’re there right now, and you’re wondering, “What do we do? Is there hope left for our marriage?”

That’s where Toni’s book, Before You Split, can provide some help. The subtitle is What You Really Want for the Future of Your Marriage. I would say to any couple: “Before you make a decision that is a final decision to end your marriage, make sure you’ve done everything to fight for it to try to preserve it. Get a copy of Toni’s book.” You can go to our website,, and request your copy. Again, the website is The book is called Before You Split. Or you can call to order; our number is 1-800-FL-TODAY; 1-800-358-6329; that’s 1-800-“F” as in family, “L” as in life, and then the word, “TODAY.”

And let me also add, before you make a final decision, you owe it to yourself to attend, together, a Weekend to Remember marriage getaway. These getaway weekends have been used by God in hundreds of thousands of marriages over the years to bring healing and hope where there was division and strife.

If that’s where you find yourself, again, [read] Before You Split, [and] come to a Weekend to Remember marriage getaway. We’ve got about 30 of these events happening this fall in cities all across the country. If you register this week, you can save 50 percent off the regular registration fee. If for any reason, the weekend is not what you expected it to be, we’ll give you your money back; there are no questions asked. Register today.

And let me just also say: the Weekend to Remember is not just for couples, who are frustrated with where their marriage is. If you have a marriage, and you would say, “It’s okay,”—but you don’t want it to be just okay; you want it to be better than okay; you want it to be all that it’s intended to be—come join us for a Weekend to Remember marriage getaway.

Again, there’s information online about the getaway. Go to; you can register online as well. Or call if you have any questions, or if you’d like to register by phone: 1-800-FL-TODAY is the number. And again, if you register this week, you save 50 percent off the regular registration fees; so let us hear from you.

Alright, tomorrow, Toni and Carey Nieuwhof are going to be back with us again. We’re going to hear about the steps they began taking when they reached that frustration point in their marriage and thought, “I don’t know if I want it to go on.” How did they get from where they were to where they are today? We’ll hear their story tomorrow. I hope you can be with us for that.

On behalf of our hosts, Dave and Ann Wilson, I’m Bob Lepine. We will see you back next time for another edition of FamilyLife Today.

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